At any given time, I have approximately 3.14 questions bumping into my singular brain cell (give or take a few if I'm feeling extra frisky); I thought that I might write some of them down in hopes that a couple kind and wonderful and beautiful and intelligent people might have an answer to one.
...did my flattery work?
1) What in the ever-loving bejeezus is "sounding"? I have come across that term in many a profile, always listed as a limit, but have never seen someone actually talk about it and explain what that is.
2) What exactly does needle play entail? How... do you play with needles? Does that mean to give someone a piercing of some type, or something completely different?
3) Is getting a brand/tattoo of a partner common, uncommon, or practically unheard of (in your experience/opinion)? Could it be, or is it, considered almost like a super-duper permanent collar? Is it more often a territorial/ownership type thing, or more often a sign of commitment? Do you have an opinion on them - for or against?
4) If you have a collar, has someone ever noticed it or approached you regarding it? As in, has a stranger ever walked up to you whilst grocery shopping and said "So... you like getting spanked, eh?"
If so, is it fairly obvious what it is, or is it more of a day collar/necklace?
5) In your own personal experience, are your limits something that you've tried and didn't like, or something that you will not try/know that you won't enjoy? A combination of both?
(This obviously doesn't apply to things that are illegal or morally indefensible; you would think that those would just be a given)
6) How does one go about public play without bringing, well, the public into it? If you're outside around people who haven't consented to your scene, how does that play out?
7) If two switches are in a relationship/dynamic, how is it decided when each person will be the Dom or sub? Does it just happen naturally and you go with the flow? What if both people are feeling submissive at the same time, or vice versa?
8) In your personal experience/dynamic, does your role carry over into everyday life? Say you're a Dominant - if you're in public with your submissive, do you still act dominant towards them (and they respond the same as always), or are you just "normal" people? "Normal" isn't the word that I'm looking for here, but it's the best I can think of at the moment. Non-BDSMy people.
I don't mean this in the way that you'd make them drop to their knees on the sidewalk, rather if it's clear that you're always the one in charge, regardless of circumstance/whereabouts.
9) Sadists - is there a certain level or amount of pain that you enjoy inflicting, or is it the response in your partner that you're looking for? If you poked one person with a stick and whipped the other until they bruised, but they both gave the same response due to their differing tolerance for pain, would that still be satisfying for you?
10) Do you believe that the dynamic/lifestyle is more important? Do you believe that a lovin', touchin', squeezin' relationship is more important? Do you only find appeal in a dynamic, or does building a relationship with your partner before the dynamic create a stronger, more powerful bond (in your opinion/experience)?
11) Have any of you watched the movie "365 Days"? Did you find it as horribly awkward, bordering on unwatchable, as I did? I don't know if it's because it was just an unbelievably bad movie, or because I was so uncomfortable I would've preferred crawling out of my skin to watching it again, but I laughed through the entire thing.
Both, is the answer to that.
Are you lost, baby gorl?
12) People that actually like celery - ...why?
13) Do you remember the line to be "Mirror, Mirror on the wall..." or "Magic Mirror on the wall..."?
I've always remembered it to be Mirror Mirror, but that is, in fact, incredibly incorrect.
Inconceivable.
