3 months ago. Feb 2, 2022, 4:50 PM
I have 4 imps (children) and they have all grown up, gone off to college or the Military or both... I lovem to death and proud as fuk but this past week made me shake my head and ponder... am I gonna have to put my own imps through a fukn wall?
Back in November my youngest daughter graduated college with a bachelor's degree in micro biology, just to find out that the college let her buy the gown, invitation and walk the stage... but she failed a class and needs to retake it... before she actually has the degree.
I could be wrong but since when is it acceptable to lie to your whole damn list of family and friends? They give you money & gifts for all the hard work you put in and the accomplishment you achieved.. but... you didn't. You failed. 😂😂 Own your shit. She got hurt that I didn't get her a graduation gift and I'm like um... babygirl, when I see the document in your hand, I'll give ya the gift I already have set aside for you but for right now, you didn't graduate. You lied to everyone and want me to reward you for it... No. I raised you to have better character towards those who love you most.
So she works in a lab and was stationed there nearly the entire time of her last semester without pay... which idk how the fuk that is legal but she's happy cuz of the experience she gets with the promise of hire on when she graduates... of which she didn't... so instead they hire her for a different job that she can do until she completes the failed course and I'm thinking damn! You broke contract and they made a way to keep you cuz they see your potential? Hell yeah. Of course this pays less but it keeps her there... so my lil cum drop ask if she can move in with ^AngelBunny^ & I till she finishes the one class because she lost all her scholarships due to failing. She tells me this will give her a chance to save up some money to pay off her college debt & get set for an appartment so she's not having to hurt paycheck to paycheck. All of which is a great plan and I'm all for it. I talk to Bunny and she's like, sure! Your imps are awesome and she cleans up after herself. So we agree... we have had her with us before between semesters and she is never an issue but we really don't have a room for her. Bunny... omg how I love this woman... ask if it would be ok to move her office from the spare bedroom to the tiny "dining room" that isn't much more than a fat hallway being about 6ft by 8ft and is the only threw way from the kitchen to the rest of the house. Now there is more to the back story than I've time to tell but suffice it to say, Bunny's office in the spare bedroom was a point of contention in the past and why we slowed down to casually looking for our Other to compete our Polycule... like... major, breakdown in the relationship contention. We worked through it, came up with a plan and agreed that the spare bedroom would be her office till we move. Period. Here she is giving it up for this smaller room which I never used for much more than a hold over room for tools n crap. I cleaned it out, Bunny washed it down and we moved her office, along with our rabbits that also lived in the spare bedroom cuz she sometimes used them during her work for a calming effect. So this was in no means a small task. To top it off, Bunny asked if we could let my daughter use her bed and stuff from the old apartment that we'd stored in the basement... Umm.. hell yeah. Good thinking. Daughter moves in and is happy af! We three do our own things, no stress, lifes fine and I don't mention the extra $100+ it cost to house my daughter per month. I ask her to help with dishes now & then and to me, this is just being part of a family unit. However dishes are rarely done & I have to ask my 22yr old daughter to pitch in... "I will, I just need to blah blah blah."... frustrating but fine, so long as they get done. Daughter ask if it's ok for her military boyfriend to stay with us during the holidays... sure! Bunny and I don't mind. Again, expenses go up and little done ... like... i come to find that Bunny is actually doing the dishes because of the build up.
That. Is unacceptable.
I have a "otw out the door" conversation with the daughter as she rushes off to her ex-boyfriends moms b-day part...🤔 wtf? Oooook then... not my life, not gonna say anything. Until I get a txt...
🤨🙄😔😡 seriously... what... the fuck...
Correct me if I'm wrong here my lovely kinksters... but.. um... children have a free roof over their head, food accessible with no cost, water, utilities..well in actuality they get everything at the charge of nothing but maybe doing chores to learn responsibility n shit, yeah? She wants to be treated like an ADULT WHILE LIVING FOR FREE?!🤣🤣🤣🤣 Is she fukn serious?! Jebus fukn cristo... where the hell did this entitlement come from?! Currently she makes more than I do and is going to bitch about doing the dishes 1 time a week?!? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 ... ooooo babygirl.... college and boys have made you forget who the fuk your daddy is... I had to let that shit simmer for 24hrs in order to keep from blasting her full boar with my rage and double edged sword of a tongue. To top all this off, Bunny threw her back out a few days before this and the Friday before that happened, I took them out to the local steakhouse where the girl & I had a disagreement about what "helping out" means... My oldest daughter is pregnant and is pondering coming home when she has the baby so we can "help her"... to which I said... no. I'll gladly keep that boy, I love babies but it's not my job to raise someone's child for them nor is it Bunny's to be a babysitter. You was adult enough to get prego, adult enough to keep the child, grow the fuk up n raise it, just like I did. My youngest went into a tangent about how people just need help sometimes and I shouldn't be so hard ass... My personal feeling is giving a hand up is not the same as a hand out. If I offer to do something for X time is me giving a hand up... You coming and expecting me to take care of your shit, is expecting of a hand out... um.. fuk off. Lifes hard and it doesn't revolve around any of us... figure the shit out & take care of your own shit. If you need help, ask... if I can't don't get pissy with me, you're an adult, deal with it.
Fast forward to the current txt situation.... umm.. what part was I unclear in? So we have a sit down... no yelling, no physical relocation of her little ass through a wall... (btw, Bunny is fuk awesome for calming my tits.) We talk casually and I explain to her what all was done to make room for her in our home. I explain that her presence was an interruption in Bunny and my dynamic... I show her the Bill's from before she moved in to current state and informed her that her share of "paying" is $300 a month, OR dishes 1 time a week when there is more than 10 things to wash. Her eyes went to the floor as she started back pedaling on her stand concerning dishes 😂😂😂. I told her to have them done without me asking, "it's your rent, due weekly" to which she gladly took me up on... then I catch Bunny doing the dishes on Sunday cuz they wasn't done yet... 🤬 Made Bunny stop. Daughter wakes up, gets dressed and is otw out the fkn door when I try in the most civil voice I can muster... "You said you'd have the dishes done. Why was Bunny having to do them?"
"I planned to do the Tue!" (3 days beyond the week)
"That's not what we agreed..."
"In case you haven't noticed Daaad... I've had to work 36hr in the past three days! I'll have them done on Tue!"
🤬🤬🤬🤬 I want to do really... really bad things... Bunny is looking at me like... please don't kill her, Master... so... feed a person enough rope and let them hang themselves. Gawd I hate this for her but she's about to learn a hard lesson.
"Tuesday then. Fine. Havem done."
She doesn't come home till she knows I'm gaming and guess what?!?!?... dishes still in the sink.
I gave Bunny explicit directions to not touch the dishes. I'll fukn buy out to eat every damn day if need be, but come Feb 15th if shit isn't done as agreed she's gonna find out how adults deal with shit in the real world. Eviction notice with her shit in boxs on the porch.
Nobody... I mean NOBODY owes you jack shit unless you have a debt to them. Entitlement is a losing battle, always.
Sadly I see this same shit here in the Cage. Dom... get your head out of your ass, they owe you nothing. You haven't done shit let alone set a contract. Subs... you're submission is only as valuable as your service. Nobody owes you shit either. Set a contract & hold to it. Those who can't set contract are not mature enough for you to be hurt over. Simple fact to me: When people don't meet your expectations, or treat you in a manner of which you are not consenting to or act like you owe them... you don't have to be a fukn drama queen to make your point.
Cut the damn cord and walk the fuk away, you owe them no justification of your actions.
Tough love is harder on the one cutting the fukn cord than it is the baggage they are cutting away from.
But... I love my babygirl enough to treat her like the adult she wishes to be.
Second moral to the story... careful what you fukn ask for, you may just get it.