Today I want to pick some grey matter from the skullcaps of others.
In most things of life there is a Moral and/or ethic that determines how people think, respond or address situations in life.
What is your thoughts on contracts and/or relationships? As a jump point I'll give a few scenarios but the conversation isn't exclusive to them.
I know my Morals are far lower than my ethics and in my particular situation my vampyric needs sometimes brings my ethics into question, so where is that line.?
Scenario:
1). You are in a contract with someone for play only and that is how the contract reads. While it is not written "toys" only due to feeding the particular kinks, one of the party starts to catch feelings for their contractual partner. Is it ok to continue so long as action to fulfill those emotions are kept in check or should they bring an end to the partnership and contract, being upfront and honest with their partner?
2) While in a monogamous relationship, one goes out with friends. While intoxicated they end up going to the point of touching and oral sex. Are they liable for their actions and is that considered a betrayal of the relationship? Whether they ever tell their partner or not, is it ethically acceptable in your opinion?
3) You're in a poly contract relationship and one starts having unknown, random partners that is against the current conditions on the portion of A) unknown to the group
B) untested for sexually transmitted diseases
They apologize and swear it was all protected sex and they wouldn't do so again, then point out something obscure in the contract that doesn't line up with the context as their justification.
Is it acceptable? Was the contact even valid? Should they be released or forgiven, in your opinion.
4) Your partner declares in an argument that "they hate you, they are done!" And storm off. They are silent for the next three days and unresponsive to any outreach attempts. By chance you meet someone who shows interest in you and y'all decide to meet up for coffee later. The coffee meet up goes way better than you ever thought it would and they lean in for a kiss...
Are you free to kiss them? Are you ethically responsible to validate the "break up" first?
4 pt 2) You accept the kiss and when you get home, the partner who stormed off is there, apologetic and horny as a nympho in a gangbang.
Do ya tap that and keep the kiss hidden?
Tell them about the situation?
Was the relationship terminated by the possibly flippant words and actions?
End
Remember to be respectful to another's viewpoint and opinions.
1) My personal ethics is a contract is a contract. Infraction in the smallest is no different than infractions in the greatest. My justification is: why have a contract at all if you don't find it as a document of authority. Picking what is optional to be followed voids the purpose of a contract. So I end the scenes until we can have an open conversation.
2) Everyone is responsible for their own actions or inactions. Alcohol and narcotics are a choice so a persons words or deeds are the same as sober and in a clear mind. Apologies help the emotional side, but rarely erase the words or deeds.
3) Not only is it a termination of further continuance but EVERYONE is going for a health screen! To me, if a person is unclear in the terms and wording of a contract, it's on them to request clarification and do their research before agreeing to the terms. It nullifies the objection of fake misunderstanding and removes further argument.
4) If I truly mean anything to my partner, flippant words of abandoning the relationship is an end of the relationship. Whether we make up later does not matter for the time between. In this particular situation I would kiss the person and as there isn't mention of a relationship, I don't have an issue with smashing the former partner. However that doesn't mean I'd be willing to return to it either. If I meant as much as they are declaring, when did it change? Is my emotional and mental well-being to be subject to one who have proven they won't protect what I've placed in their hands?
You can respond to all or one and feel free to present ONE your own if you like, just please be brief and concise.
Thanks!
Max