I find it hard to believe that so many people dance around fantasy on this site without a clue what reality looks like, let alone having a first hand knowledge of what it feels like to actually submit to a Dominant or to have a submissive who is devoted to you, and will do anything for you.
I was fortunate to be introduced into the culture of D/s about 40 years ago, quite a while before Fifty Shades of Grey exposed the fictional side of our particular kink and caused so many to race out to the nearest dungeon or adult book store hoping to get lucky and find some ass to smack.
Sometimes in the process of cruising the halls of weird on the internet you might run across someone who merely wants to play (translate play as "type dirty to each other with one hand.") and wants to do so just for a quick dalliance and to enjoy some spicy interaction with no strings attached and just a bit of not so innocent fun.
It is fun, but, if you had talked to someone else in a similar circumstance a couple of days before, and submissive A is acquainted with submissive B you are liable to find that for submissive A, flights of fantasy had already left the airport winging their way to a never ending life saga of you riding into the sunset together.
Reality is choosing the china and silverware patterns fantasy is typing your way to an orgasm.
I had someone contact me through another site who was mildly familiar with the lifestyle. began call me Master within 2o minutes, promised undying devotion within an hour, and asked for money a half hour after that. Then she could not understand why I had stopped talking to her.
There is a fantasy world that you can enjoy much like the one in 50 shades of Grey and you can certainly enjoy that and the lifestyle as is depicted there, just try to keep one foot on the floor so the room doesn't start spinning.
There is a real world made up of men and women who truly don't feel complete unless they are performing tasks for a significant other who is a dominant personality and force in their life. We need to bear in mind that as a dominant with a submissive, the line between dominance and bullying/abuse can become very blurry if one does not keep the rose colored glasses put away except for special occasions.
Worthy of note also is that real Masters do exist who know what to do with a sub and truly know how to care for and nurture a submissive to facilitate their feelings of belonging, well being, and happiness. If you are someone who wants to serve or have someone serve you for more than a weekend or a few minutes behind a computer screen then please. Do some research someplace other than fictional accounts, and find out how the rest of the world that "gets it" conduct themselves.
I have read numerous comments regarding
Instadoms
Wannabes
and a couple of other uncomplimentary titles.
If that handle fits you and you don't care, then wear it proudly, otherwise, learn some things about the lifestyle.
Thanks for listening, I feel so much better.