The relationship I have with my Master is quite different from a lot of my other lifestyle relationships.
The first Dominant I had a long term relationship with was a female. She was very territorial. Maybe a bit overly controlling at times. But this was partly because of my past and her wanting me to be safe, at least that's how I seen it at the time. I wasn't allowed to socialize on my own very often. Then when we started playing with other women she would pick who we played with. She also choose the sub that we were poly with. Being that I was so new to bdsm, kink, and poly I was comfortable with her making all the decisions. She encouraged me to educate myself, went to college but wasn't allowed to work outside the home. I worked for her company from home. As the years went by she gave me freedom and I would occasionally be allowed to pick a play partner and make some decisions regarding home and family.
My second long term relationship was with a Dominant Military Man. He called me his submissive but in many aspects I was his slave. He wasn't controlling like my Domina was. I had the freedom to socialize with vanilla people as long as the vanilla men didn't hit on me...etc...and as long as he knew where I was going and what I was doing. He did forbid me to socialize now and again but there was always a good reason for it...punishment/discipline, or the type of social activity it consisted of. He allowed me to be part of choosing our play partners, but he made the final decision, which was also true for choosing our poly partner. I was also included in the household decision making if it affected me or my children directly. But, he controlled the finances, buying of expensive goods...etc...and of my traveling. I loved being part of his life and serving him for those 6 wonderful years. He played and beat me on a regular basis so I was never in need of attention. Then things changed and his health became a concern and didn't want me suffering, or caring for him, so he found another Dom for me.
My third and last long term relationship, of 10 years, gave me more freedom than I had in almost 20 years. I was educated, but not enough to satisfy my own self-worth. I attended university and worked at the same time. Received my degree with honors, then started a career in Business. I still had rules and demands that had to be followed. He chose our play partners. But I had the freedom to make household decisions on my own provided it didn't effect anyone negatively. It all was very new to me and the freedom he allowed me may have been part of the reason for the breakdown of our relationship. I traveled a great deal. I obtained a job that required my traveling to different states, and eventually overseas. We stopped playing, not because I wanted it but because he lost interest. Not just in playing with me but playing with anyone. No more threesomes, no more poly, no more BDSM, D/s play, although I still did everything I could to please him when I was home. A parent got sick so I had to travel to be there. I got sick and had to travel to get the proper care. Then one day, after being gone to take care of my health I walked into our home and all my personal belongings were packed. Our relationship was over, and even before I was out of his life he had started another one...a vanilla one.
I moved home, to where I am now. Had one long distant Dom for a year, but our physical play was not enough for me. Played with a local Dom (sex slave and occasional impact play) for almost a year but his skeletons and family drama were too much for me so it slowly ended. Tried mentoring a man but only lasted a few months because he wasn't honest and the trust was lost.
And now I am collared and owned by my King. We haven't been together for very long but the attention he gives me is very fulfilling. Our communication is deeper than I've had since my first male Dom. I serve him mainly as a sex slave, but there is the control and demands still involved, sensual impact during sex, and the promise of bondage and torture...😈. We have been searching for a female play partner because that part of my life had been lacking badly for many years. I had played with one female in the past 8 or so years and it is a desire that has been growing. I want him to have all his needs and desires met, fulfill some of his fantasies, and serve him in any and all ways that he deserves. Worship him the way a King should be. I encourage him to play with others when he is away for work, and during that time I will obey and behave. I will also search for a female play partner who will be shared by us both, but when he is away she will fulfill my need for attention. I have no interest in playing with another man because no other man has the right to penetrate my body or mind. In time maybe we will find poly but during that time we will play, learn, grow, and bond. There are no expectations of 24/7 because of our family lives. My commitment and dedication to him is true and strong because of the honesty, comfort, and total trust that is there. He is my King and I worship every part of him.
