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The Isolation Diaries

Just some thoughts and musings whilst remote working in self isolation...
2 years ago. February 26, 2023 at 10:38 PM

How do cage bots,

 

Bit of break from my usual meandering nonsense tonight.  I’ve seen on another site and also on here that alot of folks seem to use kink/bdsm dynamics as some sort of therapy to deal with issues far and wide ranging from things like problems with weight, past trauma even a fear of spiders…


I’m never one to judge others for their choices however I do wonder just how healthy relying on somebody who may not necessarily be emotionally equipped enough to deal with their own issues never mind yours is.  Though I suppose it could work in some sort of symbiotic way.

Don’t get me wrong, I have quite a chaotic mindset and find being given a singular focus very calming.  However I would never dream of using anyone I was talking to as some sort of free therapist.  

I suppose I was just curious on what everyone else’s take on this is.  Please don’t take this post as any sort of attack as I know how sensitive these things can be.  Mental health is a big thing for me and I am just a naturally curious person and figured this is quite a good place to ask as most in here and pretty,dare I say, sensible.  Certainly compared to other sites.


anyhoo cagebots, I look forward to seeing what you say.

 

till next time,

 

cheerio

 

 

 

Pandaish​(sub female)​{Mr Gregory}Verified Account - I use my bdsm dynamic as mental health treatment. My husband and I have been in a dynamic for 5 years. During that time I have used this dynamic as a way to heal my inner child.
That said, in situations unlike mine, perhaps you're new to this person, it could be something known as a trauma dump. It's something that I have seen with a lot of people who don't know exactly how to make meaningful relationships without throwing all their sticks down at one time so to speak. Like a here is me, like me please kind of situation. I have also personally done this. It can be hard for thoes of us who have a hard time really getting to know people.
2 years ago
SubmissiveScorpion​(sub female)​{Ascending} - Great pondering!

Abused and neglected kid, here. (I speak about it openly with anyone so, not divulging any information I’m not comfortable with)

For me, BDSM is important in healing my past trauma because there was never any closure after the things I endured… No aftercare, no love… So I use certain aspects of the lifestyle to help my brain process through things and heal.

Now, what I will say, is that you made a VERY good point about relying on someone else who isn’t equipped to handle their own business… That is the importance of vetting partners on BOTH sides of the slash… I look for emotional maturity and self-awareness in any potential partners.

I also don’t use BDSM as my only means of therapy… I go weekly to my therapy appointments with a licensed professional who is also kink allied (HUGE plus!! Seek them out, they exist!). So, she has been great in all aspects as we discuss both my childhood trauma and my journey in this wonderful lifestyle.
2 years ago
Pandaish​(sub female)​{Mr Gregory}Verified Account - This is very helpful >-<
2 years ago
badmonkey​(sub male) - Thank you both for sharing.
2 years ago
Ingénue​{VK} - Look up Tashra.org. Lots of useful material on there, some of which addresses various reasons why people might do this and prevalence of this.
2 years ago

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