Good Afternoon Cage friends,
If you have already read a certain blog of a certain TVS you will have an inkling as to what this post may be about. In some small ways.
The other day I tested positive for Covid. I wasnt unwell. I was barely symptomatic although I do believe I was testing the cosmos by claiming in a recent blog it had been years since I was unwell. Which is the truth. But when you flaunt your amazing talent and skill sometimes it just seems to come back to bite you in the butt.
I have moved through my isolation and am free to do what I need to, and I still had many responsibilities that I had to manage and accomplish. I do not intend this hiccup to stop our trip to meet. We will see each other in just a few days and despite the uncertainty this is a blessing in disguise. It simplifies how I get to move and really hasnt been too big of an inconvenience to life. Although I know many others where that wasnt the case. I am very fortunate. I know this and I am thankful, grateful and very blessed.
To the note of responsibility.
As Dominants many times over it is our responsibility to manage life. To overcome obstacles. To be accountable. To resolve issues. To fix problems. To create solutions.
The thing is there are times to take on responsibility and there are times to remove responsibility. Let me give you two examples from my personal life.
I was caring for my ex wife's dogs. Well all her animals but she had just taken her cats back. So it was just her Great Dane and her German Shepard. The thing is I knew I wasn't and couldn't properly care for them. I work a 12 hour shift. I work an hour one direction away. I could not properly give them the time and energy they required to live full and happy lives. These animals were a burden of responsibility that because of the circumstance I could not appropriately manage. I know how much better their lives will be within a home that has the proper time and ability to care for them. They were a huge burden on me in the sense that I couldn't live my life because in the back of my head I was constantly thinking "I need to get home to let the dogs out. I need to feed them. Its been hours and hours." The longer I stayed away from my home the louder this voice became. And I couldn't always avoid it. Especially when we had an issue at work that required my time past the duration of my shift. Which meant an even greater burden of responsibility.
Yesterday I gave my ex wife her dogs and her vehicle. I packed everything I could up and delivered all of what her property was at the time and location we specified. When we were done the relief of a burden that I couldn't properly care for was lifted off of me. I felt light. I felt free. I was no longer encumbered by the responsibility I felt to animals that werent even mine. So I went for a bike ride. I went and had a meal. I went and watched a movie. Because I didnt have to be home. And when I arrived home later in the evening I was greeted with silence. I didn't have urine or fecal matter to clean out of my home. I didn't have dogs who were so wound up they just wanted to play in my face.
Yesterday a turning point was reached in my divorce. A massive step forward to reclaiming myself and my property and my life. I see the path forward and as this burden has been lifted from my shoulders I can now expend more energy and time in spaces I choose. Like focusing on my vacation. Like organizing my thoughts about what, how, when and where I want to choose ownership over my property when I see her. I am free. I am renewed. I am a man reborn.
Sometimes it is required that we accept more responsibility. Sometimes we need to step up and take on more work. But sometimes, we need to know when to step back. I have known I needed to step back for a long time now. With this final act of deliverance though I was finally able to. For it, I am a new man. I am more aligned with my purpose. I am more myself.
There was another instance where I was also taking on the responsibility of finalizing the paperwork for my divorce. Now any who know me will understand paperwork is not my forte. Especially legal jargon filled paperwork. My slave was doing all she could to assist me in the process and we were muddling through. We would have gotten it done. It would have been accomplished because we are capable but the stress of trying to manage it was crushing at moments. Many times over I felt utterly defeated.
I finally managed to convince the mediator that was settling my divorce that yes in fact he had told both my ex wife and I that the cost of finalizing the paperwork had been included in the payment and that he would send everything over to his paralegal presently.
Now these stories are very similar and yet quite different. One instance because of circumstance I was not able to manage appropriately. The other circumstance I could have managed and would have eventually but there was a person far greater skilled than I at handling that issue.
A good Dominant will know when its time to accept more responsibility and when to let go of responsibility. I believe that when there is a resource available that is more adept at resolving a situation it is a wise Dominants obligation to relinquish immediate responsibility to the person more readily prepared to handle that issue. It's about knowing your strength and weaknesses. Its about using what you have available to you to the best of your ability. To take advantage of the knowledge, skill, ability and talent of those that exist in your life. To lean on those who are more suited for a task and delegate roles and assignments to those most capable of accomplishing the job. When you relinquish that task to someone else you free up the mental, emotional and physical energy and can refocus that somewhere else on things that are a higher priority in your life.
Life is about management. Sometimes there is no one else to lean on. Sometimes you just have to roll up your sleeves and do the work yourself. Sometimes though it is a wiser decision to give up responsibility to give that task to someone more capable of handling the circumstance. When you do there is a great sense of freedom. You allow yourself more opportunity to do good work in the areas that you hold strength in.
To those that read my words today I thank you, and I hope that my words will assist on your journey and make the path you walk an easier one. Have a wonderful day.