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3 years ago. June 10, 2020 at 6:54 PM

 I came across this earlier

There are an awful lot of folk here who seem down for different reasons

I guess we need to count our blessings , pull our collective sleeves up and get at it.


You absolutely need to give less of a fuck



Why dish out emotion like some spoiled rich kid when you can ration it like a miser?

Did you wake up this morning in your heated house, eat breakfast in your cushy flannel pajamas and think to yourself, Damn, my life is really freaking amazing?

Nah, you probably grumbled about the cold, cursed about how high up the cereal is in the cupboard and pined for the days when food scientists will be able to engineer corn flakes that stay crisp in milk.

That homeless dude begging for change near the freeway on-ramp during your morning commute? You didn’t touch the void for a moment and imagine an alternate reality where you were in his shoes. The thought didn’t even cross your mind. What really ground your gears was the car that cut in front of you without signaling.

Totally not a pyramid scheme
If you spent even a month in college, you’ve probably heard of Mazlo’s hierarchy of needs.

Basically, Mazlo theorized that a person had to take care of their physiological needs (food, clothing and shelter) before they could worry about safety (a steady job, among other things). If you believe Lazlo, a romantic relationship is nigh impossible without first addressing the bottom two tiers of the pyramid. But it’s not hard to imagine a homeless person having a low sense of self-worth.

In essence, you can’t magically get to the top. You have to work your way up.

When the bottom drops out
For many of us, the most essential of human needs — the bottom of Lazlo’s pyramid — are little more than an afterthought. All our emotional energy is expended on stuff that matters less:
The barista who made you repeat your order at the drive-thru

Shitty drivers

The fact that Hulu’s servers are down, again


Be like Scrooge
Pretend your fucks are a massive vault filled with gold coins. Yeah, you could build a diving board and jump right into that filthy lucre, but life isn’t like the cartoons. That shit would hurt.

No, you should stand there and admire those riches. Be a miser. Ration your emotional energy and spend it on the things that actually matter — like being a great parent, creating killer art or running a marathon —the long-term pursuits that make life worth living.

Also, appreciate what you have. Life’s too short to worry about soggy cereal, the patch of dirt on your lawn where grass refuses to grow or how boring the latest season of Grace & Frankie was. None of that crap is worth getting emotional over.

Maybe it’s the wine talking
Or perhaps I’m just more woke than I’ve ever been in my entire life, or something. But I’m tired of being apathetic when I should be empathetic, and vice versa.

Maybe you’re in the same boat. If so, I challenge you to prioritize what you give a fuck about. Because who honestly cares if the dude at Sonic forgot to put the cherry in your Cherry Limeade, again.

No, I’m not bitter. This is the start of a new chapter for me.

 

 

Shadi Mirza

30 January 2018

 

3 years ago. June 2, 2020 at 9:29 PM

 

talk will ya !

3 years ago. May 23, 2020 at 11:53 PM

S0, John Smith, Lord KneelbeforemeIamagodMasterDom, Fred Bloggs and a few others like my profile.
Um ..Thanks guys..much appreciated.
Wonders why though, which bit ..blah blah blah
I purposely have kept it light, hopefully humourous and somewhat vague, this dispite
lots of people in blogs recently and on the forum stating to script a full profile and
put yourself out there.
This usually sends me perving into the 'likers' profile ..and some ..well I'm just glad I don't
meet their profile in a dark lane let alone them in person.
A few says nothing at all.
Others, however, are different, They are amusing, informative and put out exactly what the want and expect and I think OOOH he sounds delicious or ooh we might have something in common
My dilemma ..should I do the Likes the profile thing too, you know to say I saw you read my blurb and I like your blurb back or show I am a liker too or should I wait 'til he says hi.
Got to admit I have waited more than once to see if a message pops up only to be hi-less and think ..
meh why did he bother.It's like a silent communication, is there a protocol where you're expected to like them
in return ( if you do that is ) to get a communication going?
I've never done it but I'm not one to procrastinate... not much anyway so I'm going to do the liking
thing and see what happens!
Exciting times roll on !

3 years ago. May 20, 2020 at 11:55 AM

🐟🐟🐟🐟🐟
A shout out to the staff of The Cage who puts up with us all here
Without them there would be no us thank you for your hard work .You're awesome

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Another to the guys in the chat room who takes the time to say hi to those entering.
You make people feel welcome , at ease and a member of the party

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A hug to those that take the time to reassure others with their insecurieties.
A kind word can make all the difference to a person

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Lastly, but perhaps not finally, a massive THANK YOU to all those working in the front line
to those keeping the world spinning and to those staying in and those who stayed at home when it mattered

3 years ago. May 19, 2020 at 7:17 PM

 

I prefer the bird pic..it's beak is smaller than my nose

3 years ago. May 18, 2020 at 12:24 PM

Colligavit nemo. - No one has bound me (I cannot comment)

Cedo nulli. - I yield to no one (thats not quite true

Consequitur quodcumque petit. -She obtains whatever she desires (now that's better)

Flectimur obsequio non viribus. -We bend out of compliance and not because of force (that works)

Homines voluptatibus transformantur. -Men are transformed by pleasures (aint that the truth)

Ingratis servire nefas. - It is wrong to serve the ungrateful ( yes yes yes !)

Longo splendescit in usu. - With long use it shines (it does?)

Nec fas est, nec posse reor. -I deem it neither lawful nor possible ( but he won't listen)

Nemo potest duobus dominis servire. -No one can serve two masters (they aint been in Gor then)

Otiosi semper egentes. - The idle are always needy (I must be idle)

Prostibuli eligantia. - The elegance of a whore (classy cow)

Aureae compedes. - Golden shackles (a girl can dream)

3 years ago. April 27, 2020 at 12:44 AM

Scientists have grown human vocal cords in a petri dish.

The results speak for themselves.

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I love sleeping under the stars,

Pavarotti was a bit too heavy though 

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I just watched a box set back to back with a friend.

Unfortunately I wasnt the one facing the screen

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My boyfriend asked me to pull him off last night.. 

I rubbed my keyring on him..I fobbed him off

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I've decided I need to quit my job as a personal trainer because I'm not big enough or strong enough.
I've just handed in my too weak notice

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My grandfather invented the cold air balloon... But it never really took off

4 years ago. April 8, 2020 at 10:04 AM

Fergie on Twitter:

"Mother Nature has sent us to our rooms... like the spoilt children we are.
She gave us time and she gave us warnings.
She was so patient with us.

She gave us fire and floods, she tried to warn us but in the end she took back control.
She has sent us to our rooms and when she is finished clearing up our mess.
She will let us out to play again.
How will we use this time?"

4 years ago. March 31, 2020 at 1:19 PM

4 years ago. March 23, 2020 at 4:24 PM

Feeling confused as to why Coronavirus is a bigger deal than Seasonal flu? Here it is in a nutshell. I hope this helps. Feel free to share this to others who don’t understand...

It has to do with RNA sequencing.... I.e. genetics.

Seasonal flu is an “all human virus”. The DNA/RNA chains that make up the virus are recognized by the human immune system. This means that your body has some immunity to it before it comes around each year... you get immunity two ways...through exposure to a virus, or by getting a flu shot.

Novel viruses, come from animals.... the WHO tracks novel viruses in animals, (sometimes for years watching for mutations). Usually these viruses only transfer from animal to animal (pigs in the case of H1N1) (birds in the case of the Spanish flu). But once, one of these animal viruses mutates, and starts to transfer from animals to humans... then it’s a problem, Why? Because we have no natural or acquired immunity.. the RNA sequencing of the genes inside the virus isn’t human, and the human immune system doesn’t recognize it so, we can’t fight it off.

Now.... sometimes, the mutation only allows transfer from animal to human, for years it’s only transmission is from an infected animal to a human before it finally mutates so that it can now transfer human to human... once that happens..we have a new contagion phase. And depending on the fashion of this new mutation, thats what decides how contagious, or how deadly it’s gonna be..

H1N1 was deadly....but it did not mutate in a way that was as deadly as the Spanish flu. It’s RNA was slower to mutate and it attacked its host differently, too.

Fast forward.

Now, here comes this Coronavirus... it existed in animals only, for nobody knows how long...but one day, at an animal market, in Wuhan China, in December 2019, it mutated and made the jump from animal to people. At first, only animals could give it to a person... But here is the scary part.... in just TWO WEEKS it mutated again and gained the ability to jump from human to human. Scientists call this quick ability, “slippery”

This Coronavirus, not being in any form a “human” virus (whereas we would all have some natural or acquired immunity). Took off like a rocket. And this was because, Humans have no known immunity...doctors have no known medicines for it.

And it just so happens that this particular mutated animal virus, changed itself in such a way the way that it causes great damage to human lungs..

That’s why Coronavirus is different from seasonal flu, or H1N1 or any other type of influenza.... this one is slippery AF. And it’s a lung eater...And, it’s already mutated AGAIN, so that we now have two strains to deal with, strain s, and strain L....which makes it twice as hard to develop a vaccine.

We really have no tools in our shed, with this. History has shown that fast and immediate closings of public places has helped in the past pandemics. Philadelphia and Baltimore were reluctant to close events in 1918 and they were the hardest hit in the US during the Spanish Flu.

Factoid: Henry VIII stayed in his room and allowed no one near him, till the Black Plague passed...Just like us, he had no tools in his shed, except social isolation...

And let me end by saying....right now, yes, it’s hitting older folks harder, with the fatality outcome... but this genome is so slippery...if it mutates again (and it will). Who is to say, what it will do next.

Be smart folks... acting like you’re unafraid is so not SMART, right now.

#flattenthecurve. Stay home folks... and share this to those that just are not catching on. THEY are the ones who will KEEP THIS GOING ON LONGER.

I WILL NOT PLAY THE GAME OF OH THE FLU IS WORSE.NOPE! IF YOU REALLY BEILEVE THAT YOU ARE WRONG!