Roger's Thoughts on Ds Relationships & Dynamics

Hi Everyone-

Happy Almost New Year!!!

I'm excited about this project, having taught / mentored extensively on these topics in the past. Especially when I see so many friends benefit from making their dreams & relationships come true by being empowered with proper and Skillful Means, as we would say in the Orient.

Here's the latest, as I try to figure out roll out the lectures while adhering to both technical constraints & community guidelines here on The Cage.

• I have a ton of cool lectures which cover a wide range of relationship & play styles, from vanilla to edgy and from "nothing naughty, best friends" D\s Dynamics all the way to uber-romantic or objectified Master \ slave. And, even better, how to make these things -actually- happen in your life, instead of dreaming about them. And not get duped by predators or hurt emotionally (been there, done that myself plenty of times. yes, it is not just "doms" who play those games) - I would spare each of you those pains.

• I really want to post these here, Online and on The Cage. At present, I am only able to make the system work for Premium Members. Which means that many people (?) will not be able to see them. I like The Cage and, Yes, I want to support this lovely site with subscriptions!

I am presently trying to figure out if there are a ton of folks, esp. new people, who want the knowledge but who cannot rock a subscription, and I would love community feedback on this topic. If it is "mostly ok," then I can simply proceed with the lectures. If most people don't see them -and- have no way to tell they are great (they are, I promise! - have often been asked to get them out there, as they are loaded with not usually published insights), then there is no point.

• I don't do this to make money - or to get attention. My own mentors didn't, and I don't charge for sharing this material or when I mentor someone. Nor do I get flirty with them - that would be inappropriate. Charging a nominal fee for a larger class or fun event is fine; we all have to cover rental fees and such.

I would say the "price" is being a good human, ethical/caring bdsm-er, and learning to contribute back. Never let anyone tell you there is a cost of the flesh -or of emotional intimacy- in order to learn things. Most skills and educational classes in the community are taught in a clothes-on, very proper manner - and most real munches are entirely tame and safe. Sexy belongs in your bedroom - or, with consent, at a Dungeon Party.

• I am presently discussing with the Community Team to see if this is OK, but there may be a way that I can share just a small handful of lectures directly. They are usually very cool - keep you guys posted.

Basically The 4 Essentials-things to keep you safe: Consent & Communication, How Munches & Events work, "No - we are not just here for sex, nor are we Swingers with leather pants(tm)," and "Finding Educational Events, No D\s isn't just rough sex and No, you can't just figure it out in the dark." Once I find out if it is OK/get approval, there may be a way than I can share links to those few audios over DMs - whilst putting the bulk of deeper topics on the Blog as audio. Please feel free to comment or message me with thoughts or interest. 

New Year's Regards to all of you-
The Kraken


ps: heading off to Europe & the UK in late jan/feb. i will love to see what the community  & events are like everywhere; so, if you have thoughts or ideas....

Well, Happy Xmas all!

My most recent audio journal posts were a fail because I may need to rewire my method of posting audio files. So until then--here's some of my work! Some final pieces will be coming soon. These photos are some experimental tests of new techniques with leather.

Many have asked me if I will produce a series of high-end collars and harnesses to go along with my handmade canes, and the answer is Yes! But I wanted to hit a whole new level of quality...Let me clarify that I mostly make these for dear friends in my local community or for that special partner in my life. Just to be extra clear, this is -not- a sales pitch, nor am I selling them here or trying to. I am a professional craftsman in and around my Game Dev career; I make things because I love to, and I love old school quality. I thought it would be nice to share here, now that I have this blog setup.

I spent a month sourcing the oldest and finest tanneries in the US & UK and looking at the highest quality English Bridal & Harness Leathers and the heaviest machined, solid brass hardware. I am beyond pleased with this recent shipment, the results of that effort. These leathers are nearly 1/4 inch thick, and the quality is absolutely insane. And thin and delicate others for the linings of collars. Will take more photos soon - the red is just spectacular! The Black & Red is a bit stiff, great for some parts. The English Tan is lovely and softer, and I can also get it in Black--I only like Vegetable Tan Leathers, btw.

Experimental Lining Method: This new process for seamlessly bonding 2 types of Leather into a single layer is working perfectly! Notice the rarely performed edge-finishing, a process usually reserved for expensive dress shoes or handbags. A worthwhile bit of effort, adding a huge amount of polish to the collar or harness and taking it to a whole new level of quality. Now I can produce a thick black bridal leather collar with a blue or red lining. Or a red collar w/ soft black or tan goatskin lining. And so on. Soft & extra classy!

I shot some video of several variations of this, red & black etc - but for the same reason as my audio files, I don't know how to embed the video (yet). I'm hoping the community team will be able to show me how to do this correctly.

Here I am testing out fancy dyed / burnished edge treatments and also being able to produce shapes w/ variable thickness. Note that the loop of leather has been shaved ("skived") thick on top and very thin around the bottom of the loop, producing this lovely shape to the piece. Quite pleasing and pro-looking.

The edges can be dyed anywhere from solid black to brown to blue or red, then burnished smooth & shiny with a lacquer substance so that they resemble the fancy soles on a dress shoe.

The Studs & rivets are actually special screws, made from solid brass - I like the Antique Brass finish the best. For contrast (it's a test, not a final piece!), I left the edges of the thin bands unfinished, unburnished, and not-bevelled - which is what you see on -most- leather goods. To me, that simple look is one of much lower quality. I far prefer the image above for edge style.

Does Video Work here, hmmm? Let us see...

My Work: Laminated English Bridle Leather Collars

sadly, video doesn't embed, and it brings up my mobile photos account & shows my real name / (bad idea, folks)

if anyone does know how to embed video, suggestions welcome!

promise it is cool stuff!

https://recorder.google.com/684b8e89-5127-4d1c-a126-4e8bf0bc71e7

Enjoy!

Happy Holidays Everyone and much love to each and all!!!
-The Kraken

postscript:

By long-standing scene tradition, please, please do not share this link outside of this website.

DO tell folks to come listen, if it will benefit them.

You have no permission from me to distribute these Audios or anything else from my blog.

It is all my own private and confidential material - intended to do some good in the world.

Please Respect These Rules!