I will add a little at a time, as my work schedule permits. And soon, I will start recording them as well. Again suggestions/requests welcome.
BTW, credit for insights on these topics goes to my own really amazing mentors. These are several real-life, long experience Doms & subs who have taught me over the years. Many of the deep concepts in the BDSM art -are not at all- obvious; I am lucky to have had these folks to show me the way.
For the record, no I did not have to pay a dime for that training, nor did I have to service any one sexually in order to learn. I did, however, need to demonstrate dedication, consistency, and behave like a gentleman. Don't believe anyone who tells you they will "teach you" by doing stuff -to you-. Education should never be extremely costly, and a proper Mentor should always treat you with respect, not flirtation.
- The Real World BDSM community - its traditions, ethics, social structures, and lovely lovely humans
- Dispelling Illusions about the scene, both Good & Bad.
- How to be Safe & be Deep!
- Figuring out what you like, making your dreams and fantasies happen in Real Life
- The Online Relationships and their quirks - how to fold online back into real human dynamics
- How to find Munches, Educationals, Dungeon Parties, Rope Groups, and maybe a Mentor in your city
- Unblurring the lines between BDSM and other communities
- Different types of BDSM relationships, from epic, high-protocol romance to non-sexual besties who do rope or impact together. All of these are legit
- Different play styles, from romantic to objectifying. Know thyself, Know thy partner
- Different BDSM arts: Restraint/rope, Impact both gentle and fierce, D\s Topics (high protocol, structure, rewards/punishments, control by voice, rituals, collar traditions, service, sexy training styles, and so on), dress-up & showing off, pet play, Objectification both sweet & severe, Sadomasochism both physical & emotion
- No, you don't have to be into ALL of those to be a BDSMer. I only like some of them, for instance.
- WHY we like those things and how they make us -feel- is more important than the thing itself
- Aftercare
- How to do Deep consent & communication - and how this is the sexiest possible thing and the most bonding, when done properly. Yet really stupid and boring when done incorrectly
- How the Dom & sub work together
- Ethics & Traditions
- Not all of us are here for sex. Why BDSM is a super deep connector
- Yet, BDSM does make love & sex super amazing. How to
- Get rid of that Ego & that Hunger - as this will only make you a much better Dom or sub