Mutterings from the dark side

Silver​(sub female){not intere} - Thank You for bringing this up! Speaking from experience there were times when i saw someone tied up or in a straight jacket on TV that made me get excited and lol feel hot. So i was not surprised to realize that i have an interest in bondage and of course straight jackets.
I have listened to many subs make comments saying ....oh im not doing that ...and always my answer is...dont knock it till you try it. And it has amazed me when playing with other subs in real life how when they got to try something they immediately loved whatever play it was and i had to laff at them over their sudden conversion.
And it goes on...i tie my tits tightly with rope and many have told me im going to get cancer or cause my tits to die and i have had a conversation with my doctor who is aware of lifestyle play and who told me there is no way of completely tying off a breast because of so many glands in them. And i have been tying for over 5 years now...mostly on my own and well my last mammogram a few months ago showed no sign of damage. However i need to mention that......the same doctor cautioned me that tying a guys balls is a completely different story. they can be tied off too tight.
And then anal play. i wish i had a quarter for everytime someone has told me....mine is only an outie nothing goes in it. and i can totally respect that. and you many not hear me whisper ....dont knock it until you try it.......again 5 years of serious anal play, and yes we hear men make all kinds of stupid shit comments about loosening up the anus. the last anal playtime i had i was fucked with a large toy for over an hour the first time and a few hours later for another 45 minutes. im not walking through life with a seriously stretched out anus. but i can tell you that the sensations and the feelings from anal play are totally heavenly.
So yes ...i know a Dominant who has an adversion to needles He literally almost passes out...so He is of course not a Dominant who can engage in needle play. But in all other areas of play He is an intense sadist.
i have also had a conversation with a Dominant who loves golden showers. i get that to Him its like marking someone as His property like a dog. just not sure i could participate.
so ill be honest ...there is a lot of BDSM play that i have tried and i will do any of it if and when Sir decides He wants to play.
the only issue that really bothers and frightens me is someone saying that they do not have any limits. sure its fun to sit and say you will take a butt plug dry with no lube. a friend of mine spent over a year taking stool softeners and watching what she ate while she waited for an anal tear to heal.
and i had to tell a sub 4 years ago after seeing the damage she self-inflicted thanks to some idiot wanna be Dominant, that she needed to go to an emergency room and seek treatment. she ended up with 9 stitches.
Pretending when the other person is pretending is okay. Pretending when the other person is physically obeying your mind created fantasy is another story. you wouldnt like to be on the other end of the role play.
Hard limits are ones that you will never consider budging on like no animals, kids, or broken bones. Soft limits are thinks like waxing (cause someone burnt you when playing a while ago) or needles cause you could meet a Dominant who is SKILLED at it and you TRUST the Dominant to let you try it a little to see how it feels.
And by all means dont allow anyone to tie you up to the point where you cannot protect yourself if you need to. wait until you know and you feel that you can trust that person 100% not to maim or kill you. Peace

DarkSins​(dom male) - Good points!...some one remind me to do a safety babble please

Bunnie - Hard limits for myself aren't necessarily mostly based on physical acts, they're more based around unsafe/untrustworthy behaviours. For myself, ideally the person I would be trusting to explore my limits with would have proven to me that they're capable of taking me further on a journey together in a safe, sane and consensual way.

Rosekinks​(switch trans woman) - Hey Darksins Sir.. do a safety babble:P dare ya ! silver awesome response! R x

T slave​(sub female){Owned} - For me I like to test soft & hard limits with a trusted Master. My limits have changed from time to time with research and exploration.

Bella duPuy​(sub female){Not lookin} - partial list of my Limits:
NO:


* children or teens in any way, shape or form, >> i've seen the fall out from those who have ABused children and teens for their sexual pleasure.


* SCAT, >> Just NO damnit.

* anal, >> i worked in healthcare for over 10 years and saw what protracted, regular use of the anus for sex does to this cavity.


* blood, >> worked in healthcare ...


* drugs, >> i choose to remain in my right mind and enjoy the entire experience ... only want to be altered by the presence of my Sir ;)

* kicks or punches, >> that's abuse ...


* permanent marks, >> if i want something permanent, i'll go get a tattoo

* cattle prods, electrodes, hooks or heat appliances, >> i'm not an animal don't treat me like one

* lending out / sharing, >> no

* waterplay of any kind >> none