Miscellaneous Thoughts

I see so many new opportunities, dreams and ideas that I control my own narrative.  I will create and live the way I dream!

In our relationship and dynamic has begun.  The past 6 months have been an exciting learning adventure as we started as friends for the past 2.5 years.  Now we have taken the time to really know each other in a completely different capacity, our likes, dislikes, boundaries, setting rules and the sort.  Yes there have been some ups and downs, but the rewards have been worth all we have endured.  So what is the next step you ask?  Well we have two things that have been evolving in our life. 

The first being our relationship OUT of the lifestyle.  We have decided to take the next step and move in with one another.  Now that has been an interesting task. LOL.  The compromise, plotting and joint decision making to mesh our two lives together. One being Samoan, athletic, and homebody,  while the other is spicy, on the go and very neat. You can only imagine how discussions and compromise went.   I am used to being a proud solo person and having things the way I want them. Yes I know that is selfish, but again, you have to think of yourself and do what is best for you.  Now there are TWO adults with different personalities and styles, joining together as one.  So far so good, of course we have bumped heads, but worked through it and we are flowing nicely.  Though I do have to climb the freaking bed, he's 6'5 and I am 5'4, might look into a bench to put at the end of the bed to help me up.  LMAO. 

Now on the our relationship IN the lifestyle.   Well my collar states it loud and clear, I am in consideration, which I know will be a collaring ceremony soon.  One of the fun mysteries I uncovered about my partner was that he is very active in the local and metropolitan scene.  I have been enjoying our adventures to classes, munches and play parties. We both work on tasks and education opportunities together.  We both have sat down and spoke about rules, boundaries, limits.  What we both are wanting in the D/s dynamic and making goals (both short and long term) to work towards.  I have been in dynamics and collared, okay some weren't exactly healthy.  Yes I did have a couple healthy ones, but nothing that caught my full attention and on both sides, the work and dedication was not pursued.  This time has been very different, we have started in a manner I was not used to.  Slow and steady wins the race, and that is absolutely correct. I am excited to see how we will flourish and move forward.  

Have a wonderful day and enjoy every moment you are given. 

"All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination" - Earl Nightingale 

Just fall into place the way they were meant to happen.  That is what has been going on with me and I have to say I am very happy with how it is going.

He came into my life as a simple coffee date and it has flourished from that.  Taking the time to get to know each other in a deep and intimate manner, taking time to really communicate and express who we are as individuals.  Yes we have had a couple bumps in the road, but nothing a good talk and understanding on both sides hasn’t been able to fix.  

We don’t see the need to rush into anything, there is no need to set roles, yes we both know what we identify as in the lifestyle, but again, no rush.  We are enjoying the mystery of surprise in life and exploring everything together.  

As we continue to learn more about one another, the lifestyle and evolving as individuals on the same path, we are taking in all aspects and never taking advantage of what is given to us no matter what it is.  

You never know when it will happen, but it will.  Have a wonderful day!

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”

                                            ~ Mahatma Ghandi~

Hello beautiful people of Cage!

I am seeking some insight to an interaction I had today with someone I am currently dating, let me also add he is a Dominant.

This morning I was feeling especially nice, which is rare for me anytime before 10 am, that I offered to make breakfast for myself and Mr. New Guy.  Now when I was making the offer to make breakfast, I gave him ALL the options.  He gave me a vague description of what he wanted.  I did ask him once more if there was anything else he wanted, again mumble, grumble of the same answer.  I went about my business of making what he asked for and then my own breakfast.  
As I placed our food at our seats, he looked confused at his English muffin with peanut butter, yogurt and coffee, then looked at my breakfast bagel, eggs, bacon and fresh cut up fruit.  He asked me why I made a beautiful breakfast for myself and his sparse meal placed in front of him.  I repeated to him exactly what he had said to me and I told him that is what I made.  I also gave him HIS speech about communication and how important it was to express exactly what you want others, because we are not mind readers.  

So was I being maliciously compliant or should I become a mind reader?

Have a beautiful day!

To put away personal items that you don’t want to have to explain to your 92 year old great aunt.  She is still trying to figure out what the wrist and ankle restraints were for. 🤦‍♀️