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22 minutes ago. Feb 28, 2021, 7:43 PM

Isn’t life a funny thing?  With all the twist and turns that come along with it, I am still amazed what I learn everyday about people, places, things and feelings to name a few.  Life is a spectacular thing where moments are made, discoveries are founded.  To enjoy the freedoms we have to be us and to be amazed with the surprises that flood our senses   

I have learned that it is no different in the lifestyle of BDSM.  Here we are like minded people with a kaleidoscope of experiences in many different aspects of the lifestyle.  We should be using this as a platform to learn from one another, understand different roles, scenes and interest.  The simple respect we have for one another and the openness I have found to speaking with those on this site have been profoundly helpful. 

I am still hurt though by the way that people feel the need to tear down someone and their desired kink.  Why in such an understanding community do people feel the need to butt in and tear down someone because they don’t like them?  How does that help anyone?  They are that unhappy that they feel the need to put someone down, who happens to have nothing to do with them in all reality.  It is really a shame that someone has to go to such theatrics to gain attention and try to hurt someone in the process.  

I really hope that everyone can just enjoy each other’s company and learn from one another.  Positivity, ingenuity, witty banter, education and respect is all that should be required to enjoy our time together.  

Have a beautiful Day/Evening. 

5 days ago. Feb 23, 2021, 7:11 AM

Tonight is a night I wish I was in better spirits.  I am usually an upbeat, happy, go lucky person who loves to enjoy every moment from the time I wake up to the moment I close my eyes.  I often love to think about all the new experiences I encountered for the day, even the smallest thing of looking up and seeing the the many different shapes the clouds make while floating past to life defining moments of a new experience that makes a lasting impression in my mind. 

Tonight is not one of those nights, don’t get me wrong I still had a wonderful day and enjoyed all that was brought to my life, but I had a looming thought that clouds my happy thoughts and I am really trying hard to push it out because I am really not one for negativity.  I prefer to find the positive out of a bad moment and learn from it. I am still looking for that positive thought, even though it has been a little over a year, and yet to find it.


Please don’t worry as I am alright, just taking a moment to vent my feelings in hopes that it will shake it out of my mind.  Weakness  make us stronger.  It is all about how you take that weakness and build from it.  I am slowly building off it, but not sure I am healed completely.  I know it takes time to heal, it is just the wondering if when it will happen. 


1 week ago. Feb 19, 2021, 9:11 AM

 Found my Spirit Bitch and colored her in.  Have good night!

1 week ago. Feb 15, 2021, 6:18 PM

Here is a wonderful song to start my Monday with.  I absolutely love the meaning for this song.  Have a wonderful day everyone!




3 weeks ago. Feb 1, 2021, 6:26 PM

Why does most of the world seem to need to get into someone’s business?  My questions to those who seem to need to butt into something that has nothing to do with them is:

1. Is it directly affecting you?  
2. Will it cause havoc or make changes that you feel cannot be controlled?

3  Is it really your business anyways?

These are a few important questions I always ask myself when something new is going on in my life or anyone’s life in fact.  

Who are you to think you have the right answer about anyone’s else’s life or dynamic?  The answer is simple and direct, you don’t.  

Last night I witnessed a pure disrespect and lack of knowledge about others feelings and past. Not everyone deals with certain traumas, deceits and negative situations the same.  To call someone “weak” because they are guarded is simply uncalled for.  You may be able to deal with things a certain way and be able to move on, but everyone else is not you. We all process things differently.  We are here to build one another up and learn from our past to move on with our present.  

Here are a few words of wisdom I would like to pass on to those “Karen’s” and “Terry’s” out there that have the need to give unwanted advice:

1 month ago. Jan 26, 2021, 6:59 PM

He’s the word of reason in your ear. 
He is always there for you when you need him. 
He is also there when you don’t, but you never turn his words away
He helps guide you in areas you are uncertain, giving you the information and knowledge to help you through your fear. 
He answers questions when you are inquisitive.  He wants to encourage and enrich your knowledge which you are acquiring about.

He makes you laugh with his funny antics from silly memes to crazy videos. He knows just what to to do  or say that brings a smile to your face. 
He pisses you off at times.  You won’t always agree with one another, but  you always talk it through 

The one thing most I love about My own Jiminy Cricket is he is always there for me and I am there for him. 

1 month ago. Jan 15, 2021, 8:44 PM

How Long


When a dynamic is made, it relies on trust, honesty and transparency. 

You learn about one another and build a connection so intimate 

no one or anything should be able to break it.


Then it happens, the trust, honesty and transparency has been broken.

The dynamic has failed and it is time to let go.

It is over and time to figure out what you want to do next.


How long do you wait? 

My answer to the question is it depends on the depth of the connection and loss

you had with this past one.


Do you Jump right into the next one?

I would think not.  If the person meant that much to you and you are broken

from it, take some time and strengthen yourself. 

Take the time to find and love yourself, before allowing another into your life

especially when you had such an intimate connection with the one who has left.


In my opinion it is very important to take the time to really find out who you are considering.  

Get to know them and vice versa, talk and find your common interest

Talk about your differences and compromise.  

Build that repoire.

Start building from the ground up to make it a strong and stable dynamic.

It is okay to be alone, while figuring yourself out.


1 month ago. Jan 14, 2021, 11:36 PM

Get a clue....


❤️ Slayer

1 month ago. Jan 14, 2021, 9:59 PM

I may look and act like I have my shit together, but that is not always the case.  I am still a work in progress and I am proud of it. Will I ever finish my masterpiece?  Probably not, but I’m okay with that.  I have a lifetime to explore and discover who I am and what the world has to offer me.  


1 month ago. Jan 14, 2021, 9:36 AM

A Dom(me) should be there to help you grow and meet goals with positive reinforcement.  He/She should never try to change you to fit their selfish needs and desires.