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4 years ago. May 5, 2020 at 8:09 PM

It seems that these titles have gone under a transformation. When I started in the lifestyle, most communities held it as good manners for submissives to call Dominants Sir and Miss. Now I come across more people that view those honorifics as something only those they own may use.

 

I miss expressing my submissive state and my respect by using those honorifics. I hope change comes again and makes it more acceptable.

Dellydoodah​(neither female) - Nobody is stopping you using those titles . If it makes you happy and the person you are addressing is ok with it..go for it.
4 years ago
Abyssful​(sub female) - Of course, just as no one is stopping me from calling people shitface or the like, lol. What matters is what is accepted. I respect the requests of those I speak with and lately the grand majority prefer not to be addressed that way.
4 years ago
No Body​(dom male) - In the 20 years since I have first found BDSM. I have seen so many changes. Not in the life itself but in the people who are coming in. Sir or Miss has always been something that was said by subs and slaves. It is a sign of respect that never ever has to be told to someone to say. Yet I have seen it done. I have also seen so little of it now. Personalty I am good with a hi SR as I don't need a sir from a friend and I don't need it from a sub who is not mine. It's a personal thing now the world has changed. The only time I ever want to hear sir is after I give an order. Sir just tells me you understand what was said and you will do it to the best of your ability even if you fail as long as you gave it you all.
4 years ago
Bunnie - You could look at it from a different perspective and understand that you actually are expressing your submissive state by respecting their wishes on how they prefer to be addressed.

I think one of the most powerful “skills” we can possess as a submissive is adaptability. Things shift and change. The more we can learn to shift and change with them... even to the point of being able to do it with a smile on our faces... wow... what a sight to see :)
I tend to see a Dominant as the rock or some prefer anchor (strong in their steadfastness)... whereas, I see a submissive as bamboo (strong in their ability to bend but not break).
4 years ago
Devil's damsel​(sub female){HandsomeDe} - There are alternative ways on this site to show your respect. Because so many feel that any honorifics should be reserved for a dynamic, what you say is not practiced much here though I do see it occasionally.

I personally have always shown my respect with capitalization. I capitalize Dominants names and lower case submissives names. Some people have issue with this practice too, but you generally won’t hear an argument, just don’t expect it from everyone.
4 years ago

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