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Slave or Submissive?

7 years ago. November 15, 2017 at 11:36 AM

Over the years that I've been wandering through the kink world, I have often heard slave /submissive interchanged. However, it is my opinion (feel free to think differently,) that there are significant differences.

Correct me if I'm wrong, please, but while both submit, the degree of submission is not the same.

A slave gives up all rights, privileges, and limits to the Dom/me in her service. The submissive gives up some or most rights, privileges, and limits, but does reserve some hard limits.

As much as I wish to submit fully, it is a psychological struggle to commit via contract to relinquishing all rights to my SELF.

Thoughts?

_Cut_(masochist female) - There is very much a difference, when you decide to submit to someone you can very much decide something is a limit or don't do that anymore, things of this nature
When you are a slave, you relinquish that, you hand over keys and rights to everything that was you. In my personal opinion it goes deeper than that, on a number of levels, the relationships between a Master and a submissive are intense. But my point is this, there is a huge difference between slave and submissive

7 years ago

_Cut_(masochist female) - Damn it, slave. Excuse me while I go caffeinate. . . =)

7 years ago

Velvetdreams(sub female) - Haha thank gf!

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T slave(sub female){Owned} - I did not become a slave until I was able to trust my Master enough with that power over me. It took years of service before that trust was complete but I will tell you it has brought a completely different satisfaction to our relationship.

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Velvetdreams(sub female) - Yes, see, that's my feeling. We start as subs, and as feelings and trust deepen, we can choose to move to full reliquishment of rights etc i. e. Slavery.

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Bella duPuy(sub female){Not lookin} - i have those same thoughts/queries/questions, Velvet.

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Velvetdreams(sub female) - What I believe you three are saying is it takes time and effort to move from the position of a submissive to slave, once trust grows sufficiently. Is this right?

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_Cut_(masochist female) - I think there has to be the desire to become one. Slavery is not a status symbol that says "I am the most submissive of all the submissives" which is where I think a lot of the misconception comes from here. Yes, the level of trust developed over time is critical to these things, becoming someone's slave isn't something you just declare, it like any other relationship, takes time, communication, trust, and love to create.

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Slave or Submissive?

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