Highway to hell

I’ve found in recent years that I have people set in different boxes. The boxes are friends, family, friends with benefits, flirting friends, my partner/s, bestie and the people I’m pursuing. The most messy box is probably the people I’m pursuing as there isn’t a true label for them. They can either go on to become a partner, a friend with benefit or just a friend. It’s not always clear what they will become which can make me anxious at times specially if I want to put them in one of the other boxes and they still can’t decide. Which is what has happened recently. I met someone through here as a possible sub, we have been talking for quite a while and while I wanted him as my sub he still felt he needed more time to get to know me yet even after spending some time talking and spending time together the still wouldn’t go in a box. The vibes I got from him were very hot and cold. One moment he’d be all over me saying how interested he was in me and that I was his crush while also not spending too much time talking to me or giving back the attention I was putting on him. I know he’s been going through certain personal stuff in his life and the reason as to why he was distant. I knew he wasn’t really ready for anything with me but he still kept trying so I remained quiet and he was going through the motions. I waited to see if he would tell me how he really felt yet he never did. So I decided to stop taking a passive approach and force him to express himself. He told me what I already knew. He isn’t ready for a relationship. He needs time to learn who he is and work on his own problem. A problem that had costed him all his relationships. The inability to open up and talk about his problems and emotions. Personally I believe the best way to figure that out and work through it is by being in a relationship with someone that will push you to talk about it as that was the way I learned. While I could teach him how to get over this issue by pressuring him, I will not do it out of the goodness of my own heart. I’d do it because he’s mine and I would want him to talk to me. As my sub I could push him to express himself better and be there for him as he gets his life together. I’ve found I can be quite good at guiding people as to what they should do as I think of it in a logical aspect. But he’s refused to go into the partner box and truly I got tired of hunting someone so hot and cold. I also don’t believe in showing my full domme side to someone that hasn’t agreed to be my sub. So I’m now finally putting him in one box: friend. And while I don’t want him in that box, he won’t fit in any of the others and I want the piece of mind I wasn’t previously getting. Now my mind is finally at ease. No more messy boxes floating through my mind ☺️ 
Do any of you have labels or boxes in your mind? Do you try and put everyone in your life in one of these boxes? Which would you say is the messiest box?