Navigating a brand new environment after such a long time is one of the most jarring and earth-shattering experiences that any individual can find themselves in.
There's many different terms and forms of this feeling some call it sub drop some call it losing connection getting the ick there's ways where you know everything is crumbling around you you're trying to hold firm on stable ground but no matter how hard you try to sandbag the flood waters will come over it's going to happen unless you find a way to work together and heal the trauma.
In those times where in doing so the best thing is for you to go on your own congratulations you've entered a brand new world everything changes in a moment it is the most jarring experience you will feel like you just fell out of a plane.
Adapt to survive learn your strengths again find who you are as an individual as myself speaking from experience I went from courtship and old world romance to a world of dating apps and xenophobia where everyone feels like they're their own independent nation fighting for survival.
This has been no short of landing on a foreign planet as someone who has never had to experience this because it was from a time where it was just beginning and at my age when I was young it was unnecessary for me to use at all now 31-year-old man walking into a world of dating apps and single life for the first time this has been one of the most exhausting mental processes and I'll tell you I have had to ask myself questions that I have never thought in my entire life would I be willing to accept would I be willing to compromise what is it that I need as an individual now.
And I know a lot of people are in the same boat it's a rocky rocky choppy water but right now you got to keep on rolling you got to take each Rock in that boat you got to keep moving forward you got to find dry land you can't stay out there in the ocean forever or if you do it's going to beat you up it's going to eat you alive a person can only take so much do not drive yourself like it is a job to find your partner.
Go with the current don't fight up the stream if you need to take a step back. step back find that level ground again and continue to move forward and grow as an individual you don't need to have someone with you to become better you can become the best you can be even if you are on your own.
Strength is not measured by the company that we hold around us but by the leave that we take in our own action strongest person you'll meet in the street is not one who was given everything who didn't fall or falter when times got hard the strongest person that you will meet is the one that doesn't tell their story because they don't want to share the grief the person he was seeing so much suffering and torment that they'd rather put a common idea into the world they don't want to share they don't want that to prolong and continue to exist they wanted to end and they want that idea to end with them so they don't share it they hold it and by holding on to these feelings of grief not only will it destroy yourself but it will keep you from growing.
Yes you might be single but you were better than you were you don't need to hide anymore you don't need to walk on eggshells you don't need to feel like everyday could be the last moment that you were with someone you can be better with yourself.
So in short to close here with us chapter of the blog there is only so many roads that you can walk but you need to be strong to even get to the first step It's a brave New world you might be battered and broken but you need to be the strength to hold yourself up so that you can become strong again love yourself don't ever stop.