I have had to explain what I want in Female Led Relationship (FLR) to many people. I liked to think I posted about enough on my very long profile. (However I really do NOT think people read it.)
This series the next so many blogs will be how I see a female led relationship be to me. (So for future reference I can use this blog for those who want to know what I am looking for.)
Ten things about me. . .
1. I am a writer (even before I am dominant), so I need submissives that can and will read (whether they are friends or a boyfriend/husband). If you are not an advent reader, we are NOT going to get along. (I'm sick of explaining what is already written out. I will answer questions, but to have explain this over and over again is wasting everyone's time, especially when I could be writing.) (If you feel it’s unrealistic dream/goal than seek someone else.)
2. I have dominant all of my life. . . I have always tried to be in a leadership type of a role. I am NOT a good follower, I get bored easily and have high anxiety when things do not go right. I was in female Led relationship for eight years and I want something similar to what I had before. (I will explain it in this series) I do not like being called Ma'am (I am NOT that old. It's not respectful like Sir.) I like Mistress, Goddess, Queen, Dear, Hun, Sweetie, My Love, or my name (if you know what it is, please ask.)
3. I am very close with my family. We are currently living together and helping each other out. (Therefore I do NOT do perverted video chats: I have a very weak wifi and very little privacy. Note this please, just because I can be a caregiver does NOT mean I am a mommy domme.)
4. I do like sex (if done right.) HOWEVER, I currently cannot enjoy sex. (If you are only a sub in the bedroom we will NOT get along!) I have health issues (which I have mentioned in other blogs) and I cannot have an orgasm without having horrible cramps for days after.
5. I can't have and do NOT want kids. I do not feel are on my life path; I’m not seeking to be a parent to human child. However I would like cats, maybe some dogs. (I do want anyone who seeks kids or has their own kids; please move on, I’m not seeking to be mother or a stepmother.)
6. I am dominant, monogamous, demisexual, saphiosexual, and grey sexual. This means I'm seeking a smart, submissive boyfriend for a female led relationship possible marriage. I'm seeking more of the relationship than the sex. The grey sexual part means I'm picky in who I am attracted to. I put these together because I NEED the connection, commitment, and trust. (I thought I could be poly at one point, but not if I am truly connected to someone.)
7. I am NOT seeking a slave to make me happy. First of all, I do NOT like the word slave. Secondly, I'm seeking a submissive guy who likes me for me. Thirdly only I have the decision to make myself happy. (These three things make me happy writing for hours undisturbed, food: cooking or baking or dining out, and cats.)
8. I like casual dating. (This does not mean dating random people.) This means going out to a decent restaurant and a movie, or a picnic and a movie at home, or having a game night with friends. I also enjoy reading together, this is why is it very important that I have a reading submissive boyfriend.
9. I have depression, mood swings, anxiety, and PTSD. This makes me a very complicated character. (Even when I have a panic attack, I have to be in charge. If you treat me like a submissive will freak out more.) I need support, and yes I will admit no everyone can truly handle me.
10. Many wonder why I am a dominant when I can't enjoy the sexual aspect of the lifestyle. The dominance is more than sexual to me. I like the control. I love to micromanage. . . budget, give allowance (to my good boy), make the menu, cook, have him a chore list, a creative punishment list (not into pain), creative reward list. I love to make lists. (Yes, I am weird).
11. I do not like pain receiving or giving pain, so if there is a punishment in which I have to give pain. . . such as spanking, it is NOT one that will turn me on or it is NOT one in which I would enjoy. (I rather tape your sporting event and not let you watch it alive. See how many people at work talk about the game you didn't see the next morning.)
12. I am more like one of the guys than a girly girl. I like sports, well most of them. (Favorite: American Football, volleyball, baseball, basketball. Golf makes no sense to me.) I am a bigger size girl (BBW); i do NOT like to dress up (it's hard to find a decent dress in my size) and I hate wearing make-up.
13. 13 is my favorite number and I have a dark side. . . I write about vampires, ghosts, and urban legends. I love horror and paranormal movies, and I write novels in those genres. I am the type who will get so intent into a movie that if you touch me I will jump. Many like watching with me, just to scare me.
(Note: You may have seen some of these things about me on my profiles and personals.)
