7 years ago. October 26, 2017 at 9:02 PM
It doesn't matter whether I'm here, fetlife, collarspace, feabie, or craigslist. . . I've been noticing a pattern. People want someone real and have a connection with them, but they want to start with sex.
That is not how it works.
You are going to get just a series of sexual moments with strangers.
You have to chat and do things (non sexual) with them and really see who they are.
- What do they do on a lazy Sunday?
- Do they like cats or dogs or something without fur?
- What do movie do the quote from the most?
- What is their favorite meal, color, time of day?
It is the little things that make us unique, and those who notice our little things give us that true connection. It is the true connection that divides the real from the fake. It is that connection that we all really want and it makes us feel less lonely.
I enjoy sex, but I need it withe someone I am connected with.