My rants

Talula{Intrigued7} - Haha - what a great question!! My personal experience is varied - I always feel there are undercurrents - even if you don’t act on them.

Talula{Intrigued7} - Love it Kinkerbell!

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - I don't want anything but a friendship from this vanilla guy. But we already fucked and now saying I just want to be friends and I want to seek for someone . . . he's like instantly offended.

Talula{Intrigued7} - I’m not sure putting the clock back can work - the emotions are all out there and all tangled up. If he has feelings for you and you’ve both acted on those feelings I can understand he might feel hurt. Do you want to look for someone else because he doesn’t want your lifestyle? Have you asked him? Does he know?

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - He denied my lifestyle. He suggested friends first. I think he is just offended because its not his idea. The first time was great but each time after he got worst and more selfish.

Talula{Intrigued7} - I was going to say the same thing!! May be not as bluntly though ??

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - I would be happy.

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - I would be happy.

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - I feel bad, he has no friends.

Talula{Intrigued7} - He’s not your responsibility though. He’s a grown man - I don’t think you owe him anything.

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - He spent over 200 for my birthday

Talula{Intrigued7} - Did you make him or was it his choice? Is it something you can give back if it makes you feel better?

Talula{Intrigued7} - Did you make him or was it his choice? Is it something you can give back if it makes you feel better?

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - Its stuff I use everyday like scurf, shoes etc. I never asked him. It was his idea.

Talula{Intrigued7} - At the end of the day this is your life and you have to make the decision - it sounds like a hard one for you to make. You answered that you would be happy if he was in another relationship - it also sounds like you have feelings otherwise would this be such a hard decision?

Darkmistress1213​(dom female) - I think is I need more than he give me. I don't mean money, it's the attention, devotion and sex.

Talula{Intrigued7} - I get you on that one!! He’s obviously not the right man though - and even if you did try to make it work over time he wouldn’t satisfy you and you would end up being unhappy. I think you know what you need to do - you just need to reconcile yourself to it.

honeyswhore{Callie} - Yes

honeyswhore{Callie} - Lol. I answered generically initially. After reading the circumstances, in this case, i’d say not. This man doesn’t sound mature enough, and has you said, is too selfish to be able to address you as merely a friend.

PaNdEmIc - That is the age old question isnt it? I once read a study on this same question. In the study it said, that both men and women will decide in the first minute of meeting someone sub consciously if they would fuck or not. Physical attraction is one of the most powerful forces on earth. I would say the study is accurate. I personally feel, that men and women can be friends, but the physical attraction will always be present, it acts as a building block as you get to know your friends. The more you get to know them, you find more things that either attract you to this person or repell you from this person. I think what it ultimately boils down to is the will to act or not on your attraction. The ones who act become closer than friends, the ones who dont, remain friends.

Bianca15​(switch female) - No, I don't think you can be friends with THIS guy (in this case, especially since you have slept together, it sounds like he is still in to you). Overall, men and women can be friends, although I think it is easier if you are married. (It removes some of the temptation, especially if you are "couple" friends.) At the end of the day, you are not responsible for this man's issues (or the things he has done for you). And if he subtly attempts to make you feel guilty about that, he is not a good guy. If it would help alleviate your guilt, you could return to him the gifts he gave you.

Sideshow - Sideshow says
No , the only reason for the label "friends "!is so WHEN , not if , they don't feel as slippery.