I used to love sex. But now I CANOT enjoy it.
(Please do not think you have the magical or gold dick and/or tongue, because 90% of men cannot please me orally and the 10% are taken.)
I have written about my health before but I guess I have to write about it again.
Note: Please if can't handle detailed medical issues, then move on. If you want to know why I can't enjoy sex then read on. . .
Anyway, whenever I orgasm . . . (whether it's oral, pentration sex, a lucky tongue, toys, or my own fingers) it causes cramps that can last for days.
These cramp are like my pelvis is getting rolled inside out and it's pulling my thighs and lower back into it. It's like a heated knife stabbing me in a rhythmic tones. It starts and once I think I relax, it does it again. It throbs, burns, pulsates, and it not anything low in pain than a 6. Over-the-counter meds do not work and most doctors will not listen to me. Sighs. Only thing that hurt worst were my four female biposies.
(My own mom describes these cramps similar to labor pains.)
When my body gets stiff and trembles before I gush, it turns on my oversensitive pelvis and these cramps for days. I've had this condition for almost 5 years now and I've to at least 6 different doctors. (My last doctor believes it's a fiberiod causing it to make my entire pelvic sensitive and I'm working on getting it removed. She is way more concerned about my heavy bleeding. . . I just want to be done and a hysterectomy.)
The idea of this pain is serious turn off. In fact, I have not had an orgasm since February. I have not been turned on in almost a year.
I have not found a decent guy worthy enough to try to see how bad it is. He would have to be my boyfriend and concerned and interested over me, not just how fast can he fucking turn me on.
My submissive ex of 8 years of female led relationship cheated on me, because I couldn't give him sex. Most regular guys run. (My dominant side thinks if I cant cum why should he, especially without earning it.)
The longer I've been like this, the more I do not desire sex. I mean I haven't been horny for over a year and it amazing how many men and women just think with their junk. Then they want to know why they are lonely, with an STD, or pregnant. Yet they have no connection.
Even my dominance has changed from my health. . . I rather have a submissive boyfriend who understands me than one who is brat, pet or whatever sexual kinky thing he can be. I just want a guy who like me and wants to help me find my happiness. Is it too much ask for?
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89% Master/Mistress
88% Vanilla
58% Owner
43% Daddy/Mommy
36% Brat tamer
35% Primal (Hunter)
4% Experimentalist
1% Exhibitionist
1% Primal (Prey)
1% Voyeur
1% Boy/Girl
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0% Brat
0% Submissive
0% Masochist
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0% Pet
0% Sadist
0% Non-monogamist
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