there seems to be two catogories that potential partners fall into.
1, is the insta dom who thinks his word is god and that all shall bow before him without any effort in getting to know the person on the other side, many of us have had messaged along the lines 'you will do.... and follow my command you.....'
2, I have noticed another type seeming to come through, this seems to be along the lines of i am my job and i control everything. Its sooo boring, they seem to think you will fall for them as soon as they tell you there job title and dont understand when you dont. A person is much more than there job, im interested whats on the inside, what interests the person, what do they like and not like. This isnt a helpful attitude and many now seem to think that this equals Dom... it doesnt.
I have seen a lot of the first type over the years, however the second is more tricky to spot as people do talk about work in general but i have learned a good trick... the next one who says 'do you like that i do this work and im high up for a living'.... i will get the tape measure out; hopefully that might shut them up and prove the point. You are you not your job and not just your dick, you have a brain and a soul and you are a person in its entrieity. it isnt any different to going 'oi love, ive got a big one here for you'. Some 'men' (not Doms) seen to find ever more interesting ways to swing there dicks around... genuinly not interested.