The word archetype for me is new and it came up in a conversation then I was having with a dominant. He talked about how important it is for people to understand which archtype they are and which type they lean towards. This is to help suit compatibility. For example if you are a little you may not be so best suited to be with a saddest. Just like a masochist probably would not be most forfiled with somebody who enjoys ageplay. In the world of BDSM there are so many different types that it can become confusing, however I think if you focus on the main elements, your main interests it will help you hone in on the kind of person you are seeking. Whether that be a dominant or a submissive or anything in between. It also helps you understand your own qualities abd what you can offer.
This got me thinking a lot about the expectations we have when we talk to somebody new. I believe that expectations are dangerous. If you enter a dynamic or relationship with an expectation you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Often we put expectations not only on those people we are talking to but on ourselves. Instead of just simply being ourselves and being honest with who we are. The more honest you can be and the more upfront you are, the better your connections and possible relationships will be. Because there is no facade, there is no games, it is only you, them and the truth.
So back to archtypes this got me questioning how they fluctuate. For people who like me, had not heard of the word archtype basically it is a way to categorise different traits. So for example doing the BDSM test. This will give an indication of the traits that are currently your strongest. I will note though that I generally do this test over and over because my results fluctuate depending on who I'm talking to but there is always the top 2 or 3 that are the same. So those for me are the archtypes that I most strongly identify with. Keep in mind that these kinds of tests are just to help guide you. They're not an end all and be all. They are simply there to help you find a path that you can hopefully go and discover a little bit more about yourself. Go explore, go experience and go to learn the things that turn you on and the things that don't work. Do it safely, be smart about your choices and have fun.
Only through discovery and exploration will you find where you belong. Hopefully along the way you will find somebody special that can help draw those qualities out in you, rather than suppress you. Taking some time to actually think about the qualities that you desire in somebody else is time well-spent. This is not a race and the right people will understand your need for education and time to process. If they push or become aggressive and forceful you have your answer