Breakup Rules?

How do you handle breakups in BDSM?
I just ended a 3 year relationship with someone in a very super vanilla relationship. It’s been hard breaking out of our routine. We don’t talk much anymore. I’ve ...

Thu Sep 18, 2025 8:48 am • 12 Replies • 4022 Views

Vanilla dating

I get what you mean. People like to be discreet and not really talk about their kinks or it's just they've never explored that life and you want someone experienced. I find my switch tendencies active ...

Sun May 12, 2024 8:43 am • 26 Replies • 5438 Views

Help, any advice?!

I’m seeing a new guy and I need some advice. He’s a total newbie and some things for him are a bit weird. Like he says me sucking the tip of his penis feels weird and is okay but doesn’t really do muc ...

Wed Mar 29, 2023 8:03 am • 3 Replies • 1811 Views

Language is fun

I have three cats and I still have my eyes for someone spanks them a lot. They like it.

I don’t know too much about workplace banter, but I do you know the social setting context of certain terms. ...

Sun Jan 22, 2023 2:26 am • 4 Replies • 1154 Views

Language is fun

I pet my cat daily. Spank that butt. Yes I’m talking about an actual cat. But isn’t language fun in how cat also means something else? Just a fun thought I had. Happy petting ?

Wed Jan 18, 2023 5:05 pm • 4 Replies • 1154 Views

Reminder: Pace Yourself!

I would just like clear up a few things and also a my comments to the many replies this post got.

The person I was talking about was someone who recently had left the cage and came back. So upon n ...

Sat Jan 07, 2023 1:49 am • 15 Replies • 4140 Views

Reminder: Pace Yourself!

In the life of BDSM, one must be willing to adhere to a different conception of time. Pacing is not a very well practiced process among others, at least, that's what I am finding here. When getting to ...

Mon Dec 26, 2022 7:39 pm • 15 Replies • 4140 Views

HAPPY NATIONAL ORGASM DAY

How are you celebrating? I'm thinking some good food, some good reading, some playful kinky art and a happy ending.

Sun Jul 31, 2022 9:14 pm • 5 Replies • 1042 Views

Words of Affirmation

Hey so I’m curious about word choice.
What do you say or do to your submissive to make them feel appreciated and protected?
Like if they were feeling blue?

Fri Jun 10, 2022 12:01 pm • 12 Replies • 6976 Views

Just 4 fun: Music. What are you listening to right now?

He loves me by Jill Scott

Mon Jun 06, 2022 4:00 am • 261 Replies • 63340 Views