I completely agree with the OP, to be quite frank. The only reason munches are considered remotely socially acceptable is because they're a relic of an age where you couldn't meet people that were kin ...

I understand that this mimics red flags and that's fair. I posted looking for similar experience and *tips or advice.* Are there ways to make the in person vetting experience less intimidating or mor ...

Anyone else feel uncomfortable with the pressure to go to a bunch of vanilla social events before being able to approach anyone in a local scene? Munches and social events are usually considered the g ...