Abuse vs protocol

@Cithaeria


Thank you for this.

Yes, I absolutely agree with you on all points.


@Bunnie

I am so sorry that you are silenced.
Please help me here- I dont see attacks, what am I missin ...

Fri Nov 16, 2018 5:35 am • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.


The concept of exposing is a different conversation.

Having seen this play out with different folks in different ways.

I am looking to see if this is ...

Fri Nov 16, 2018 12:32 am • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

@Phanes


I dont handle predators that way
But thank you.


This isn't about what to "do"
It's about what do you see?
How does it manifest?

What have you seen be the end point?

Fri Nov 16, 2018 12:27 am • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

@Bunnie


Soooo----

This is an example of what I see.

It isnt being called abuse by either.

My question is--

Let's say the submissive says now it's all good.

But over time their fee ...

Thu Nov 15, 2018 11:26 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

@Fud



Ok. That is awesome!!!!

And I agree.


But this conversation is about seeing it.

Do you see the same things in your community and if so how does it manifest ?

Thu Nov 15, 2018 11:18 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

@Phanes

YES
That is exactly what I was looking for.


@Bunnie


Okay to address a couple of things here. The first question of whose emotions are used to determine if it is abuse are the pe ...

Thu Nov 15, 2018 11:01 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

As a community- we are in a place of having to explain and defend.

Defining abuse through the basis of consent is one of our go tos.

But----

Someone can consent and still be abused.

Thu Nov 15, 2018 9:20 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

@Phanes57

I agree.

What I'm trying to mine here is the grey area.

What parts of Bdsm are not so clear.

We are used to defining this.

I am pushing to look at the grey areas.
And perhaps ...

Thu Nov 15, 2018 9:15 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

@Bunnie



I completely agree.


I think where my head is going is looking at coercion.

Thu Nov 15, 2018 9:13 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views

Abuse vs protocol

I agree with all of this.

However, those are from the lenses of a healthy dynamic.

I'm saying that D types that are into abuse---- have a different modus operandi.


And -
That those things ...

Thu Nov 15, 2018 8:53 pm • 40 Replies • 12708 Views