By what other methods (besides the Cage) have you found your BDSM partners in the past? Perhaps traditional dating sites? In person at clubs or events? Chat rooms? Thank you in advance for sharing your experiences.

I was first going to post the question for submissive men to answer, but really I am interested in everyone's input, whether dom or sub, male or female. If you are a sub approaching your potential domme (dom), what is the tone of your initial communication?

For fetlife - when you say "can get quite aggressive" are you referring to the other people on the site, as in being aggressive with trying to meet you? And would anyone know if there is a way to sig ...

Thanks all for your replies, am researching some of the ones you've mentioned further.

I've heard others complain about fetlife but I've not used it myself. What is it that you don't like about it?