Mental illness within the BDSM community

I was a mental health professional before I retired. My work was predominantly with elderly people who tended to suffer from dementia and/or depression. Only once did I come across a BDSM related case ...

Sat Sep 28, 2019 12:21 pm • 20 Replies • 8903 Views

Inappropriate safe words

It is vital that a sub has a means of stopping whatever activity is going on at that moment. I do not do role play so for me the words are simple. "Stop", "Enough" etc are sufficient. On a few occasio ...

Sat Sep 28, 2019 11:56 am • 30 Replies • 12175 Views

Kink lifestyle attracts many bullshiters just looking for pussy

I suspect that there are indeed many 'Bullshiters' looking for sex on-line, but I also suspect that they form only a small proportion of the whole. I also suspect that many of the 'seekers' with littl ...

Wed Sep 25, 2019 6:56 am • 44 Replies • 25326 Views

Confidence.

There is in my view only one way to grow into any relationship, be it D/s or vanilla, and that is to communicate with your partner and trust in your communication. Being Dominant is not a set of behav ...

Wed Sep 11, 2019 1:30 pm • 11 Replies • 8186 Views

Dominance

I must say, that I have not noticed the difference that you mention. Not that I question your observation. I must admit that I have not met many openly dominant women in the BDSM world, and not had th ...

Wed Sep 11, 2019 1:19 pm • 17 Replies • 8858 Views

Jealous of Involving Other Women

Are you sure that his motivation is only to punish you? or could it be that he's looking for an excuse to play around? If the former, then an alternative could be for you to hand him a smooth backed h ...

Wed Sep 11, 2019 9:41 am • 29 Replies • 14458 Views

Self Bondage

Try this for starters. Use a double column tie around your ankles. Same again around your knees. Now use a single column tie around each wrist leaving a long tail of rope from one wrist. Tie the other ...

Wed Sep 11, 2019 9:22 am • 4 Replies • 3441 Views

Easing the ouchies

Restrict marks to places that will not show when dressed. Boobs, bum etc. for bondage, use natural fibre rope and not too tight. mA good long hand spanking OTK will hurt and turn you red which will fa ...

Tue Sep 10, 2019 10:03 am • 6 Replies • 2714 Views

Just 4 fun: Sexy word game. Rules: Must be a sexy word.

Shibari/Kinbaku

Tue Sep 10, 2019 9:57 am • 6668 Replies • 1040550 Views

Just 4 fun: Sexy word game. Rules: Must be a sexy word.

Felatio

Tue Sep 10, 2019 9:56 am • 6668 Replies • 1040550 Views