This ones for my fellow submissives...

Just a few cents to add to the pot, by no means 'advice.'

When i think of the name of this site (i.e., The Cage), it sort of has layered meaning beyond the obvious. i think of a cage as relative ...

Mon Sep 14, 2020 5:13 am • 19 Replies • 5845 Views

How to start?

i don't think you have done anything wrong or bad, It can be a scary thing. Openness is vulnerability, there's no way around that that i know of. But hiding, being closed means remaining unseen, unkn ...

Mon Sep 14, 2020 1:08 am • 4 Replies • 3968 Views

How to start?

i like what Mark wrote. So ditto that.

i'd especially ditto the write a "kick ass profile" advice. From the dates you have on your profile, you've been a member for close to a year now, but you ...

Sun Sep 13, 2020 10:27 pm • 4 Replies • 3968 Views

The deffinition game!

"kink": a personal sexual need/desire that falls outside 'the norm.' (and everybody's "norm" is different, so just using a term is not enough, we have to learn to communicate and share our personal s ...

Sat Sep 12, 2020 9:17 pm • 6 Replies • 2166 Views

How can you get someone to see that what you need and want is not Vanilla

idk, but i am taking wicked sabina's self perception of being submissive at face value. i don't get the feel that wicked sabina is "domming from the bottom," or that she would even want to? my read ...

Sat Sep 12, 2020 7:42 pm • 13 Replies • 4356 Views

Being A Sub and what it means

Thanks for the question, and all of the wonderfully thoughtful answers.

Like many of you, i don't think there is a one size fits all answer to this. Indeed, i find one of the major challenges of D/ ...

Sat Sep 12, 2020 3:29 pm • 14 Replies • 5831 Views

Which traits make a Dominant or submissive attractive?

From a Dom? Self awareness and the ability to articulate who they are and what they need/want. Balance, them wanting to know me as much as be known by me.

Thu Sep 10, 2020 3:44 pm • 33 Replies • 10800 Views

Dealing with shame

I must have been too vague, not really setting up a good scenario in my post. Here is more context...

The particular times I'm referring to what was wanted of me were not things that were beyond m ...

Wed Sep 09, 2020 3:55 pm • 29 Replies • 7742 Views

Dealing with shame

I think this is a tough one. I’m big on compatibility vs doing something because one or the other wants it. i think that leads to false expectations and resentment. I know some look at D/s differentl ...

Tue Sep 08, 2020 10:29 pm • 29 Replies • 7742 Views

Anyone else scared of horror movies?

Psychological thrillers, yeah some, if they are really good, "Get Out" is one of the more brilliantly written and performed that i have seen? i also liked "Shutter Island." "The Talented Mr RIple ...

Mon Sep 07, 2020 9:20 pm • 40 Replies • 9576 Views