Lady_Sin_of_NOLA(switch female)
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7 years ago •
Aug 15, 2017
7 years ago •
Aug 15, 2017
I am a switch and recently over the past few yes have been embracing and attempting to live my BDSM again ,more so as a Master(Mistress). Currently I have one very experienced slave,whom I've known as equals before I began training with my Madam/Mentor and other Master's gracious enough to also be my teachers, at this moment my slave lievs long distance.I also have another new sprout sub with little experience requesting to become slave and owned by me, currently still communicating via email and completing his slave application before confirming or denying placing him under probationary and temporary ownership.As part of the probationary period and trail of one whole month,I place a few simple rules,routines, protocols,task and so on for the applying sub to acknowledge and fallow to show his/her submission, intelligence,weak and strong spots, compatibility with me as their Dominant/Master and most importantly if their serious as I am about our Lifestyle and not another waste of time.
Some Masters(male or female) do require tribute (s) of some type,gifts and or cash.The gifts can be both personal for the Master and or for the Masters dungeon, Every one loves receiving gifts that can show how one appreciates and loves that person,but a Master that is serious and isn't a fake taking advantage of a submissive would strongly suggest or ask that subs tribute gifts useful for the benefit of the dungeon and His/Her sub's BDSM.As for cash tribute,that depends again on the Master.I,like mine and few others who did similar, expected either $100-$400 at the beginning of temporarily ownership and probationary training for one month or more or,many times, expected tribute of $50-$100 weekly, until sub became fully accepted and owned as slave,which then would change the terms and conditions of tribute (s).The money tributed, however,went imidiately towards the Master's House and placed in that sub's private piggy bank and used to purchase subs needs in care, personal gear and provide rewards in subs wants and even used to help sub achieve a set goal if financial means are nesesary to achieve set goal.
As a start,I ask subs for starting tribute in gift purchase from my Amazon wish list.First:The option of tributing $100-200 in gear/equipment for my dungeon and personally for the sub.Second:a gift worth $25-$100 from another wish list of things I would appreciate being personally gifted.If not online and in person keep it the same and ask that sub accompanied me to the adult store and pick together.
If I were a slave(sub) I would request that I send a small,but reasonable, amount in gifts that can be useful to your BDSM relationship and lifestyle or do this,but in person together and spend time getting to know one another, possibly if you feel up to it even ask that after you have a small session to start.Before anything though get to know this person,make sure they are real.If you can find a way to have them prove what they claim to be and what they offer is true.i understand on both sides as submissive and as a Dominant how difficult and frustrating it is to find a real person and trust what is said is real and won't harm you negatively,but don't give up just be smart about what you do,who you give trust to and how you test the waters.I am learning that as a Master,even we can be scammed by false submissives who waste or time,energy and especially money.Dom or sub,makes no difference,people can pretend to be either with the goal in mind of living for free, receiving kinky pleasure and, playing the role of Dom,seek control over another they can abuse and benefit sexually and even financially off of.hope I have been,even a lil, helpful to you in my advice of my experience as both slave and Master.good luck
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