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redass333​(masochist female){Owned by M}
7 months ago • Wed Nov 08, 2017 8:08 pm
redass333​(masochist female){Owned by M} • Wed Nov 08, 2017 8:08 pm
FabSeverus wrote:
You will be broken into pieces for your own good.
why would you break something that has value to you?
Kal Foster​(dom male){felicia}
7 months ago • Sun Nov 12, 2017 4:10 am
Kal Foster​(dom male){felicia} • Sun Nov 12, 2017 4:10 am
The amount of truly healthy resources out there currently on the subject of kink and D/s is so much better than it was 20 years ago, when I made a few futile attempts to introduce my wife to my kinks. Forums like this, books, podcasts, there is so much available now done by healthy, well-spoken, reasonable people, and it spurs on good conversation.

Knowing I was not alone, and having her see that, has been very encouraging. One of the greatest parts has been how and when to communicate on the subject. There are many things I’ve learned. One of the biggest was that the worst time to communicate about desires/plans/kinks is in the bedroom, seconds before starting. The negotiation process, the checklist, the meeting of the minds, these are essential toward building the trust and the mood. The best communication we’ve had on this has been during long drives, or just at the kitchen table. Those conversations have been very eye opening and HOT at times, and it has lead toward some fantastic bedroom adventures.
The Niche
7 months ago • Mon Nov 13, 2017 8:38 am
The Niche • Mon Nov 13, 2017 8:38 am
I wish I knew that just because your endorphins makes you want sex doesn't mean that you need it. I slept with someone who was "training" me because I was new and young and had never felt what I had felt. It was a jumble and ultimately a regret
BottomKatie
6 months ago • Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:35 am
BottomKatie • Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:35 am
That it's healthy--and okay--to play with people who are only your friends. When I first entered into my local scene I was in a relationship with someone most people knew and it was a struggle for me to understand that concept.

That you don't have to identify as anything and it's a constant journey. I've considered myself a Little and a submissive. I don't consider myself as either now. I've refused the label of masochist and now I embrace it.
outsideleft​(other male)
5 months ago • Fri Jan 12, 2018 2:11 pm
outsideleft​(other male) • Fri Jan 12, 2018 2:11 pm
I wish I was told that Ms A's, black carbon cane, really hurts !


Mmmm, I did get told very early on '...to take your time...'


I struggled with this message, but am finding, more and more, that it is a key bit of my learning.
Selena​(sub female)
5 months ago • Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:04 am
Selena​(sub female) • Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:04 am
What if ur a young sub like under under 18
Slvls
5 months ago • Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:06 am
Slvls • Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:06 am
God I can think of a few, lol. You will fall in love with your Master. It's ok to let everything out - plusses and minuses. You will be very wet every day for at least a year, if not more. This is the way marriage should be. Lol
Slvls
5 months ago • Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:07 am
Slvls • Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:07 am
redass333 wrote:
FabSeverus wrote:
You will be broken into pieces for your own good.
why would you break something that has value to you?
really, do you break your hot rod too?
Jmp0411​(sub female){Sins kitty}
5 months ago • Sun Jan 14, 2018 7:06 am
Jmp0411​(sub female){Sins kitty} • Sun Jan 14, 2018 7:06 am
That all Dom's are not the same and there is a fit for you. Not to give up on yourself and to find joy in the one you find. Most important what your think and enjoy are not taboo here!
Bunnie{Owned}
5 months ago • Sun Jan 14, 2018 7:52 am
Bunnie{Owned} • Sun Jan 14, 2018 7:52 am
Slvls... “you will be very wet every day for at least a year, if not more.” Love this... so true lol. Everything you said!