| The Bull(dom male) |
4 years ago •
May 10, 2020
I would agree with everything everyone has said here, my pet peeves are the same but I also have some additional comments.
Yes leaving your profile blank or mostly blank, think of it like a job application! What sets you apart from the other thousand people on the cage, all looking to meet a deserving person.Its your chance to say "hey you should look at me, and here is why" You list your country as the region you live in. Wow aren't you mysterious! You should however consider that many like IRL type of relationships. Please state your age, I'm an older male, I want to know if I'm chatting with a 19 year old, or a 25 year old. Personally I'm ok with someone whom is in there late 30's but younger than that? no thanks, I'm in a much different stage in my life, and I need someone I can relate to. People who can not for the life of them spellcheck or reviewing what they have written before they hit send, if you are attempting a re inventing the English language, don't bother, it was invented many centuries ago, and I'll go with the older version. I love the ones that say no one reads these profiles, or I'm not good at filing these things out! what you are really saying is that you could not be bothered! and I agree, no one should bother with you either. Seriously, the phrase contact me if you want to know? know what? you've said absolutely nothing about yourself, frankly if you are unable to write even a brief bio about yourself, then I'm left with the feeling that you are so completely boring that even you having nothing to say about you! I also dislike the ones that use filters to change or cover up what they look like, its not like you have to show what you look like, but if you are going to post a picture, then post your picture. |
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LordofPain56
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4 years ago •
May 11, 2020
What would catch my attention is if the text actually told the reader WHO the person is (as in character traits), WHAT they are looking for (as in what type of relationship, what type of lifestyle, and how they expect their Dom to interact with them), and IF they seek to keep secret, private BDSM life from vanilla life, or completely mix openly in public.
Then maybe they can talk a little about their submissive desires, limits and boundaries. But, yeah, I'm one to talk. If you look at mine maybe 3 short paragraphs. Well, forget it. I had a four page long profile for 20+ years on other sites before coming here. Never got one message. Information overload? Never mind, I'm done. I mostly come here just to read the forums. |
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rottenbrat(sub female){Skyrich}
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4 years ago •
May 11, 2020
Quote: LMAO. OMG, i love You... it's my luck that You're straight and in a relationship (playing).
Seriously, there are some great points here. i went right to my profile and deleted my nudies... i obviously have to much experience on hook up sites. The other one was about the "inexperience." i never thought of it as "blood in the water," but it's a good point. While i am far from naive, HNG's can be a time waste and annoying. Though i do like and want a horny Top, i'd like more than that. @Tallslenderguy (In my loud brat voice) Heeeeeeey! *Drags a short-person step stool next to you and steps my 5'2in (not slender) frame on the top step to hip check your boney butt at the right level* I got here first!   (Playing too) *leans in close and whispers "Between you and me, you have good taste, and I can't fault you there."*
On the profile note, one thing I see consistently is people posting their scores from their BDSM tests. This irritates me to no end personally and is something I was originally advised to do by another "pseudo wannabe dom"...… Then I thought about this for a while..... Why would I do that unless all I am looking for is a quick way to measure the fastest screw available? I want someone to get to know ME, not some percentage scores from a test I took. Others ask me about my scores all the time and I tell them the same thing...… The person that needs to know about those and my sexual preferences already does..... See the collar. No one else needs them. From my screen name it's pretty easy to tell I am a self-identified brat, and that is all anyone really needs to know. If you are debating on putting up your scores, I would encourage holding off and seeing how it changes who contacts you and what they are really looking for. |
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DrKrall
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4 years ago •
May 11, 2020
I'm the odd one out as "no limits" is a turnon for me. That means I can set the limits without negotiating which I think is pretty cool.
Most people claiming to be without limits aren't really without limits though, and if that's the case I prefer they state their limits rather than have me guess My ex's only limit was death. We had no problems for many years. Of course she could be in serious trouble if she met a Dom with the same lack of limits. |
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Curious Raven(other female)
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4 years ago •
May 11, 2020
Great topic! And thanks for inspiring me to spiff up my profile a bit! I agree with most of what has already been posted but wanted to make a related comment. I really hate it when I hear from someone who clearly has not bothered to read my profile. Or alternatively, I really like it when someone reaches out to express an interest in something I’ve written. Nice to be treated like an actual person instaed of a generic number!
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tallslenderguy(other male)
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4 years ago •
May 11, 2020
Curious Raven wrote: Great topic! And thanks for inspiring me to spiff up my profile a bit! I agree with most of what has already been posted but wanted to make a related comment.
i think i've re-written and edited my profile about five times since reading comments here and from reads privately solicited from commenters here. i love it when people share their inner thoughts and feelings. i think we are so conditioned to hide for all sorts of reasons that we rarely get a glimpse of each other. This is very cool for me, i'm glad others are finding it useful as well, i want it to promote communication and umderstanding. |
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