outsideleft(other male)
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7 years ago •
Dec 31, 2017
Confused too
7 years ago •
Dec 31, 2017
I too, love feeling humiliated by my Domme - I don't, though like being ridiculed or abused.
For example, I know I'm not an idiot - being called one affects me - gives me the sense of being disliked by my Domme - being humiliated and being disliked are two very different things for me.
As has already been outlined, some language has fairly known meanings.
I cannot abide those I consider idiotic - stupid - worthless...etc...
Being humiliated - being called 'boy - little fellow ' Being commanded, in public, with the intention of others hearing - is humiliating and wonderful - such forms of humiliation draw me closer to my Domme - I feel she knows the effects on me and, to my joyous discomfort, we can both enjoy these occasions.
However, being called names that I associate with in a dislikable fashion, have me feeling pushed away from, disliked by, disrespected and unwanted by my Domme.
I guess there is a relativity in what language 'I' feel humiliated by and what language 'I' feel abused by - such terms are likely different for everyone.
My preference in kink is to serve my Domme and in so doing, feel ever closer to Her - if She does not like me and Her language indicates this, there is a problem here for me - I don't want to serve anyone who dislikes or disrespects me - and as has been outlined already - we show our feelings and attitudes to others by our actions - physical and verbal.
There are many types of pain I am willing and happy to experience for one who cares for me, likes me and respects me as their submissive.
There are significant differences, for me, between pain and damage - the pain I am happy to experience is not damaging - abuse is damaging no matter anything else as damage is part of the reason certain things are labelled abusive.
I am not willing to be damaged by a Domme who cares about me, let alone one who does not.
Humiliation, then, is an action conducted by consent, is safe and involves caring from both sides of the D/s divide - I love it, for many reasons, but mainly because it causes me to feel closer to my Domme, as she knows I love Her doing this to me, she knows I am willing to accept this because She likes it and I want to do things She likes too - so it is a win - win - invariably, we both feel more attached in win-win scenarios.
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