Submissive mantras

Submissive mantras

MetalCage​(sub male) • Oct 13, 2020

Hey all,

I hope everyone is safe and secure. I was thinking the other day about how much I enjoy submitting for dominant women and how great I feel when I'm deep into sub-space. I have often heard, when discussing serious D/s relationships, that some submissives will come up with or are given mantras to recite periodically. The nature of these mantras are as diverse as the many roles a submissive might engage in. Reciting these short phrases or sentences may help me slip into subspace easier and more consistently which I'd love.

Have any of you all used this technique and found success? If so, I'd love tips or mantras to use myself if you'd like to share!
All this is just another effort to be the best sub I can be!

Little Matty​(sub male) • Oct 13, 2020

I've done a couple things that are similar.

1. Less of a mantra, and more of an admission. Being asked some leading questions with an obvious conclusion, like what type of person does X, and you do X so what are you? So that kinda could be considered reciting a mantra in response. Those things definitely bring me into sub-space quickly, but I think its more about the dynamic going on rather than just saying it, but having someone else recognize it. I don't think just repeating it would have been as effective.

2. This was more of a mental thing to train myself, so I wouldn't repeat the mantra out loud but Whenever relevant I'd tell myself "truths" about myself (well things I wanted to be true) and then change how I was thinking about whatever it was. Overtime I used that to create a sort of mental-shift making that truth be the way I thought. Not sure if that really makes sense so as an example, I'm a little, I had been sleeping with a teddy bear for awhile, but I wanted it to be less of an after-thought. I started telling myself the "truth" that I was a little boy who needed a teddy bear to sleep.

I'd repeat that to myself whenever it felt relevant, so when going to bed, when thinking about sleeping, when thinking about getting ready to sleep, whenever I saw a teddy bear, etc. I first noticed it actually working when I was packing for a work trip and had the unprompted thought that I needed to save room for my teddy bear in the bag. Normally, I wouldn't take any of that stuff with me, but after doing the affirmations it was just a fact.

The second thing has been really powerful for building up other traits and adjusting some of my interests. Not quite sure if its the type of mantra you're thinking of but I think it can be a useful tool none-the-less.

Bunnie • Oct 13, 2020

A Mantra for me isn’t about “subspace” (to be honest I’m a little confused as to how I’m seeing that word used lately... do you mean a submissive mindset?).

It’s about re-centring myself and my focus... bringing it back to being about my place within the dynamic and my duty as a submissive. As much as this sounds like it’s “me, my, I,” it’s actually about the very opposite... it’s about settling everything internally, so that my external focus can be on the Dominant.

TakenLower • Oct 13, 2020

Thank you Bunnie for pointing out the sub space thing!

I don’t know if this is what you mean by mantra but I use these words to calm myself:

I am damaged but not dismayed. I am pressed but not overwhelmed. I have lost but I am not lost.

It’s short and easy to remember even in precarious situations!

MetalCage​(sub male) • Oct 13, 2020

These are all such well thought out responses, thank you!

G Switch LV • Oct 14, 2020

My Master has given me a MANTRA. I also carry a crystal that represents Him in my pocket that I can hold and touch while reciting it or when I need to feel closer to Him. This exercise has helped me to center and feel into my submission/slavery. Hugs and best xo

xHarleyQuinn​(sub female){Collared } • Oct 25, 2020

A mantra for me also has nothing to do with subspace, but more about setting me up for the day. It is blended in with my protocols so it really part of my morning routine. I also repeat one to myself when I am struggling with a rule or protocol. I am a brat and not always in a good way, so it helps a lot when I am about to spiral and push limits and get myself into trouble. If there is time, I will sometimes do a mind-clearing meditation prior to a scene or playtime in order to be more present and that often helps me slip into subspace easier.