Solarlee wrote:
For me, it's the standard "How are you doing today?" when we have never communicated before. My response is probably going to be "good". Let me know WHY you wanted to send me a message! What did you see that grabbed your attention? Otherwise I have to assume you're just fishing.
I don't have such a question. Pretty much any question coming from another guy...is a turn off. I'm wondering why he is bothering me to be honest. I am certainly not interested in men.
What is a turn off in reference to a sub is to ask a valid question and get an "Ok" for a response. For a sub to put absolutely no effort into answering a polite and correctly worded question is a turn off. I concur with a previous statement about putting a lot of effort into an introduction and getting...a one word reply. So, before I know a sub...there is no point in writing a paragraph about why I want to message her when there is a good chance she may not answer at all. Let's have a conversation and during that conversation you can find out why I was interested.
Also, I dislike emailing. Emails are slow and not interactive. If chatting can lose context, emails are far worse. I realize many women do not want to give out their phone number (rightfully so) before they at least get to know someone a bit. Well, be prepared to chat to accomplish getting to know one another because emails are not sufficient. At least chatting approaches actually talking to one another. With that in mind, I ask a sub if they would like to chat and their answer is...chatting here is fine...(when we are emailing and not chatting...duh). With that in mind, where or how would you like to chat?