Why cannot stop fantasizing about sharing her?

Why cannot stop fantasizing about sharing her?

Marshall Gibson • Mar 15, 2021

For quite a while I've been so turned on by the idea of having a threesome/ seeing my girlfriend with another man or woman. Idk if it's just from watching so much porn that I want to see those types of things right in front of my eyes or if the thought of seeing her be totally slutty just drives me wild. But the thing is I'm not sure if I'd really want to act out these things in reality and having a hard time getting past this fantasy of mine. Any thoughts?

Kelpi • Mar 15, 2021

It is normal and many people have the same fantasy. What you need to know is does she feel the same way about it. Are you sure you are going to be ok with seeing someone else having sex with her and is your love strong enough to let it be done. Think about what your going to feel if she finds someone who she like better are you ok with letting her go? What if you find someone else? Think about this before you try it. Talk to her about what she wants to do and if she would like it. If she is ok with it then give it a shot but find someone you know and trust before you do. My ex-wife and I did it many times but we knew the women long before and everyone knew I was clean safe and only hers. So everyone knew where they stood before and after. The biggest thing was nothing went on behind her back or mine and if they had someone new in their life then we where out. Not knowing the ne people and who they hung out with was not good for a "friendship" like ours.

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Mar 15, 2021

if its a fantasy why not use it as a fantasy with HER. Combine talk of it into your play. Use the images it creates to fuel you both. Its an easy add in and easy to control when you are unsure. It can be used in so many ways and be really hot if used right. When you tire of that, them maybe think of adding others (if you BOTH are willing). When adding others as Kelpi said it needs to be 100% transparent for it to work. It is not easy and it will complicate, never walk into it thinking, this will be easy and you'll find the "open process" makes it a little simpler. Another option that I know people use is to employ a sex worker (legal sex workers, you also know they are DDF). With a sex worker there is also NO emotional attachment...well, they will make you feel like there is until the check clears!

Re: Why cannot stop fantasizing about sharing her?

emmmllliiininenine​(sub female) • Mar 16, 2021

If its a fantasy and she is ok with it, i say go for it. Obviously yall need to communicate VERY clearly on the details but i think u should act on it if you wanna try it. Nothing is wrong with having fantasies but good communication for anything involving other people is really important. Maybe set boundaries like only one night stand type of deals(no personal connection) or cutting the person out afterwards, or setting clear boundaries for what they can and cant do(like kissing, being friends, having sex more than with u, without you, like whatever works for yall). Best of luck!

yourbootsownme​(sub male) • Mar 16, 2021

First, nowhere in your post do you seem to address whether she is the least bit interested in participating in a threesome. Is this a fantasy for HER too?

Threesomes are a very common fantasy. But the reality can be quite different. There are potential issues of jealousy, anger, expectations that are not met for one person but ARE met for the other. And most often there seem to be issues where one person thought A B and C were all understood but the other never agreed to those things. Communication is primary, before and after.

There's a conversation during the climax of the Kevin Smith film "Chasing Amy" where the character Alyssa discusses some of the risks a threesome entails. It popped in my mind because I've always found that movie very funny (and it's one of the only Ben Affleck roles I enjoy).

Marshall Gibson • Mar 16, 2021

Thanks for the good advice everyone. This is a fantasy of mine that I just felt like discussing with others in a place like this. I think I will just keep it as a thought that turns me on sometimes. Maybe her and I will discuss it one day I will find the right words to express myself on the subject. But as Id said I'm not sure if it's something that I'd be into in reality even it were something we both decided we wanted to try, that's the conflicting part. But ultimately things are good and I just tend to revisit the idea more often than I'd like to. I know communication is key and I respect her feelings.