Honorifics/Titles- More Than Just One??

Honorifics/Titles- More Than Just One??

LilMinx​(sub female){Not Lookin} • Aug 14, 2021

Hello Lovelies!

I am still pretty new to the lifestyle and I am enjoying learning and researching so many things to get educated and enjoy this lifestyle even more. It has come to my attention that my Daddy likes to have two different ones depending on how he feels. He likes to use Daddy and Master. For him, he likes to use Master when it's more day to day stuff and being soft with me. But he also really likes using Daddy when he gets primal and into it.

So, I guess what I'm wondering is, do subs also get two honorifics? Or can they have two? Because I totally get why he would like having two different ones. I like to be a brat for 90% of the time and I like to be called Baby Girl in that time. But I've noticed that other subs get called Princess when they are being good girls and I have automatically attached to that honorific and think it's super sexy and cute for that. I haven't discussed it with my Dom yet because I wanted to see if having two honorifics is even a thing for subs or not? Because I would totally love to be called Princess when I am actually a good girl for him

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female){LJ} • Aug 14, 2021

The Dom I’ve been talking to calls me different names usually good girl, sweetheart, or darling. So I absolutely think subs can have different honorifics although mine are used interchangeably not one for a specific situation. As long as you both like it, I don’t see the issue. 😊

cynthiajoy • Aug 14, 2021

i just think that what an owner calls us is a clue to their feeling at the moment. we should learn to pick up on their moods. Isn't that why we chose this life to be the supportive and submissive one. i like to match their feeling with calling them the title the situation calls for with them.

i think we all like to here, "good girl".

Miki​(masochist female) • Aug 14, 2021

I never really thought of that as "honorifics". Perhaps it's just semantics , but I'd call them simply nicknames.

As I am not a "sub" outside of rough sex, I'm just not in the loop as to this. I get called all kinds of things and don't think much of it.. Conversely, from time to time I might refer to a given partner du jour as "asshole" because as one not in a dynamic, I don't owe anything in particular to any of those pricks.

MrFulmen • Aug 14, 2021

You and your partner can use as many different names for one another as you both agree to use.

It sounds like you're thinking about what meaning to attach to different ways of addressing one another. Being thoughtful about that and communicating with your partner about it is a great idea. Different names can be simple pet names that don't hold special meaning, they can signify a general mood (like when your parents called you by your full name, and it meant they were out of patience with your shit), or they can be attached to different sets of protocol and expectations for how you behave toward one another (I have a partner with a dog name, and if I call her by her dog name she has a whole set of rules to follow for acting like a dog until I call her something else).

SuperEight​(sub female) • Aug 14, 2021

My Dom addresses me by all sorts of names depending on our moods, whether or not you want to call those honorifics is up to you. For my dynamic, MY titles aren't really very formal, and that works for us. I address my Dom by either Sir or Master, the former when we're more playful or bratty, the latter when more serious.
Him calling me anything from "my sub" to "brat" to any other numerous names he's assigned to me is more of a way for me to check into his mood rather than a formal title that we've discussed. Now, I dont think it would be out of line for a sub to have them, they just dont really have a place in my dynamic.
I say if it's something that you want and would add to/clarify your scenes or relationship, it is definitely worth a conversation with your Dom

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Aug 14, 2021

⬆️⬆️ What Super right says applies to me as well.

As others have said, depending on which nickname/term of endearment is being used can help clue you in to the Dom's mood. Mine calls me "kitten" when he is feeling romantic or approving of what I've done but my normal, ever-day name is "BabyDoll" (the origin on my name here) and I call him Sir. Frankly, when we are on the outs and he had to call me by my given name, it felt so weird that I gave him permission to address me as "babydoll". Hearing him call me anything else felt like I was talking to a stranger.

I have a little so when SHE is forward, she MIGHT call him Daddy but it's rare. It's usually reserved for aftercare and it's taken him a while to get comfortable evening THINKING of himself as a Daddy...but he totally is! 🤣

cherilynn​(sub female) • Aug 14, 2021

I enjoy protocol so my opinion on this is going to be different than most. Just so you know...
Folks please correct me if you see errors.
Insomnia is a beast

For me, there is a difference between a title and a descriptor.

Submissive is how I describe my personality and how I relate in romantic relationships. I don't call myself slave because to me, that is a title that is earned.

Likewise, dominant is describing a personality type and how they relate in romantic relationships.

Master is often a title that is earned and bestowed on a person by the community ( you will see this more often in the leather community) usually after many years in the lifestyle and demonstrating mastery in their craft.

Within the context of your relationship, you can have as many descriptors/ pet names/ whathaveyou as you like and work for you.

You do you


On a side note, I really like ya'll here on the cage. I love the fact that new folks can come on the forums without fear of being blasted and are welcomed warmly and get answers to their questions. It isn't always so...
Ya"ll rock

cherilynn​(sub female) • Aug 14, 2021

Don't want to divert the thread but wanted to peek in and correct an error in my post.
I did call myself slave in a previous forum post when I should have said sub with slave tendencies.
Consistancy and all that...

EagerToPleaseYou​(sub female){Owned} • Aug 15, 2021

My Dom calls me baby girl, little one, baby, sweetheart and darling but any term of endearment is special to me.