| Closetedfreak |
3 years ago •
Aug 16, 2021
Sasa wrote: Closetedfreak wrote: Men often think a Domme is supposed to cart wheel in the room and put on a show like in the porn they've seen. Dominant females think ignoring the man's desires is synonymous to being dominant. Both are wrong and headed for disappointment. The secret is, if you're lucky enough you can find someone whose desires match well enough you are both getting what you want out of it at the same time. I don't know dommes like you describe them, but sure there are some and it is not something I haven't seen in doms. The point for me is let others do what it is right for them. There is not "the way of the dommes" as there is not one way in BDSM at all ... There are only individuals. If I want to understand why people are doing something I ask them directly to get an answer. Talking about them and assume whatever isn't the easiest way to understand. Your secret though... That's true yes.  There is a balance. Ignoring a sub's needs or desires leads to a short relationship, or an unfulfilled one. Catering too much, as the OP described, isn't really being dominant, it's just playing a role in his fantasies. I don't know what the answer is, but in my mind if you aren't getting what you want almost all the time this isn't what I see as a Domme. If your sub doesn't agree with this you have to accept that he isn't really as submissive as he sees himself, or just accept that this is the level of dominance you will be able to enjoy. |
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| Closetedfreak |
3 years ago •
Aug 16, 2021
Public apologies to Sasa. My response was joining in the conversation, not intended to be a retaliation to her post.
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| loyalsubinchastity(sub male) |
3 years ago •
Nov 1, 2021
How do I know if my partner is in to being a dominant like what are tell tell signs that she would be dominant or into the things I like such as pegging and 24/7 chastity play I really want to pic her brain we have known each other for 9 years and dating for less then a year I want to introduce her to the lifestyle but I don’t want to scare her off smh I don’t know what to do
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