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jesseyfaymes​(sub gender fluid)
3 months ago • 08/26/2021 4:16 pm

A little disappointed

jesseyfaymes​(sub gender fluid) • 08/26/2021 4:16 pm
I’m not sure anyone is on this board as the last update was awhile ago but I wanted to see if anyone else had this experience.

I signed up for the site and started posting, expecting that eventually someone would message to chat or reply to a post. It’s not in my nature to make the first move. A few days passed and after I had very little interaction on a fairly active profile I changed my gender to the one I was assigned at birth. Wonder of wonders I suddenly got waaay more messages and interactions, even tho in my bio I still say I use they/them pronouns. Unfortunately it seems like no one who reaches out actually reads those. Im just feeling a little discouraged and wondering if there are any other non-binary people on this site who have advice about this.
dollMaker​(dom male)
3 months ago • 08/26/2021 5:24 pm
dollMaker​(dom male) • 08/26/2021 5:24 pm
Profile reading is not very common, and it takes time on here to make meaningful connections in my experience. Sure there will be instas jumping into your in box trying to rush you into whatever, those who come on all hot and then vanish. Its a part of net interactions, whether bdsm or not.

There are good people here and it is possible to meet genuine people, even have an online or in person dynamic, mix of both. I wish you the very best and hope it works out for you. Patience though will be required.
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House Talion​(dom male)
3 months ago • 08/26/2021 8:41 pm
House Talion​(dom male) • 08/26/2021 8:41 pm
Ppl are everywhere, but not so easy to find. No reason you should change your facade just for them. Be who you are and as an active member of the community you'll eventually find what you're looking for
SubtleHush​(sub female)
3 months ago • 08/26/2021 11:26 pm
SubtleHush​(sub female) • 08/26/2021 11:26 pm
I'd say go to fetlife and see what non bionary groups there are there. You may find a few even near you. This stie still has good features but discussion groups are easier to find on fetlife for free.
Solace​(dom male)
3 months ago • 08/27/2021 1:00 am
Solace​(dom male) • 08/27/2021 1:00 am
Hello Jesseyfaymes. You are welcome here. You don't have to go somewhere to find people who will include you, though I do encourage a diversity of circles for everyone.

If you find understanding and enjoyable company lacking on this site, then that is exactly why we must implore you to stay so that you may help grow the community in ways we are weak. Despite being a fairly open minded group of people to others needs and kinks, we can be somewhat involved in our own sometimes to the extent that others suffer for it.
SubtleHush​(sub female)
3 months ago • 08/27/2021 3:23 am
SubtleHush​(sub female) • 08/27/2021 3:23 am
No reason jesseyfaymes​ can't stay on this site AND go explore others. Everyone needs support and understanding for the place they find themselves in. A welcome and diverse group can only do so much for that
jesseyfaymes​(sub gender fluid)
3 months ago • 08/27/2021 4:04 am
jesseyfaymes​(sub gender fluid) • 08/27/2021 4:04 am
Everyone’s replies and advice have actually shown me that this site is very welcoming and has some very nice people. I’ll keep interacting and be a bit more patient. Good things come to those who wait!
MissBonnie​(dom female){oz}
3 months ago • 08/27/2021 9:00 am
MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • 08/27/2021 9:00 am
I do believe things are becoming more inclusive here, its just taking awhile.

BTW its Purple day in my country (Au)so I'd like extend that to you too icon_smile.gif it does take some of us time to adjust. I think forums are slowly doing that too


Wear it Purple Day is an annual LGBTIQA+ awareness day especially for young people, based in Australia. Supporters wear purple to celebrate diversity and young people from the LGBTIQA+ community.
The Day is organised by Wear it Purple, a student run, not-for-profit organisation, providing presentations and workshops.