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Terms being used much too loosely lately…

ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female)
6 days ago • 11/24/2021 4:19 pm
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) • 11/24/2021 4:19 pm
I don’t really care what people call themselves as long as they don’t expect me to. I don’t judge if a dominant has Dom, Sir, Master, Daddy, Mistress or some variation of user name either. It’s a BDSM site after all. Likewise for submissives and others, although you see it more with doms/dommes.
As others have said just let people identify how they want. If you don’t think you would like them because of it, either see if they’re open to clarify or keep looking.
DaddyPP​(dom male)
6 days ago • 11/24/2021 6:58 pm
DaddyPP​(dom male) • 11/24/2021 6:58 pm
Dominus eius wrote:
DaddyPP wrote:

No different to me than a Dom/Domme who has to put Master or some such as part of their name though. You either are or you aren't, the need to parade it around seems to speak of issues a sub should steer away from. So yeah, it goes both ways


Now that’s an interesting statement. As personally I look at someone’s name as just that - a reference they have chosen for themselves. For many it’s natural to incorporate an indication as to how they identify into it?

You say that you would make a judgement on someone who includes Master or some such as part of it. However, you have Daddy as part of yours - should people read into that the same way as you suggest the use of Master should be? If not, what is the difference- they are both (commonly) understood roles within the community.

I wonder what (if anything) people chose to read into my handle…..


Lol, daddy in my name has nothing to do with my kinks, and everything to do with being an actual father. That being the best part of my life. It is also expressly noted in my profile because I did not want people to assume I was into daddy play which I am not.
Betty Tails​(sub female)
6 days ago • 11/25/2021 7:52 am

Am I party to call-out culture?

Betty Tails​(sub female) • 11/25/2021 7:52 am
I think my response in this thread, as well as others I have written on the Forum, qualifies as call-out culture. Can you believe I was unaware of what that was? I am an asshat! 🤣
I admit my tendency to be righteous in my expressed opinions. Put simply, it is me stroking my own ego - I apologise for this. I'll look into better approaches when voicing my view and will pause and think before sending. Forum's got me like 😤; it's a codependent relationship 🤣.
Tthomas
3 days ago • 11/28/2021 5:37 am
Tthomas • 11/28/2021 5:37 am
I have a friend named Bob.

Sometimes when talking about Bob I will say…..
He is a great guy
He is a mans man
He is a stud

These are words I use to describe Bob.
If Bob used the same words to describe himself I would find it odd.
We are in a lifestyle that is not common. Sometimes our language is not common.

We all should have our opinions and be able to talk about them.
Maybe we should take the robes off and put the gavels down and not be so judgmental.