being rude

Slavehandler,

"However, ignoring dominant and submissive this is really just conversational ethics we are talking about in which you want to talk to someone and have a conversation, so my reply is in regards to having a normal conversation."

This thread started with Purple Freesia asking for some insight on supposed Dominants telling her she is rude and gave several examples, it's not about conversational ethics. Your answer to her was not about conversational ethics either.

This is my view.
Purple Freesia (whether she realizes it or not) had been letting her inner voice guide her, in this case, reluctance to answer questions or divulge information to complete strangers. This voice that warns people something isn't right here or simply danger, whatever you choose to call it. This voice that has thousands of evolutionary years behind it, should take a center stage or at least examined especially when one is delving into unfamiliar territory. When someone dispenses advice that boils down to they are blocking a process or the flow of conversation, in effect it is telling that person to not listen to thousands of years of evolution. I see this type of thing and it makes my teeth grind, she should let that voice flourish, because that is ultimately what can help keep her safe. Nor idle promises from another person, not the one who says trust me, etc but that voice, if she learns to let it guide her, she will be much further ahead than many folks with years of experience under their belt yet who keep making the same mistakes over and over.

Her voice told her that hmm this person getting upset because I prefer to not talk about whatever it is they brought up made her voice call a out a FOUL. That is THE CORRECT RESPONSE, exactly what should happen, I'm just sorry that assholes turn around and blame her for their inappropriateness. That and your post to her is a couple of reasons people that choose submission end up with non compatible partners and even worse, abusive situations. The same words I could say to Dominants listen to your voice and nor society and others feeding a false narrative.

I hope she reads this. It's very important that she gets comfortable listening to that voice instead of bozos who tell her she is rude bc she doesn't answer a question about whatever.

All that brings me to your post to me. It didn't read from a conversational ethics position but rather an air of you finger wagging towards me, and that 2as confirmed by your last sentences.

The good old theory of they aren't really sub if they don't do A, B, C or act in what your personal idea is of a sub.

I don't bring my submissive bits to a forum thread, they don't make an appearance until I feel submissive towards a person. Which doesn't happen just because someone self labels as a Dominant or a Master.

I hope you were not expecting a thank you for you seemingly trying to put me my place wherever that is here in this forum.

I didn't realize we had assigned seating here in this forum.

Slavehandler,

You are correct in one thing. You don't know me or you wouldn't have spent all that time writing YOUR ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT ME.

*Ignoring questions is rude in any context of life.*

Point out where I wrote to ignore someone. You are confused, may want to double check who wrote what.

You have moved the goal post every time you respond to me. You change the subject matter, that's what that means.

Exactly my point.

Inner voice = assumptions = not fun when you become target of someone inner voice and it happens to be wrong. People are different. People find different things rude. You are never going to please everyone's feeling or needs.

That doesn't mean inner voice aka making assumptions is correct or right. It's exactly that...an assumption and judgement based on personal experience and knowledge. More than often it ruins things for people because people are often afraid or don't feel safe to be vulnerable.

It is like stopping a potential good thing based on a very general and small piece of questions or interactions as if everyone who asks the same thing are all the same person.

It's like saying that a specific gender should be doing X because my experience said so, or my inner voice feels like it. It is just a feeling. Feeling is not factual. Feeling isn't true. Feeling isn't even trustworthy. If feeling was trustworthy we would never break-up or get divorced. Feeling is super personal and it's not always looking out for our best interest.

So, trusting inner voice and judging based on a single question, and then ignore it. Is just not something I personally get behind. I don't think people deserve to be shut down like that.

Thanks for participating. I am done.