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aradialspire​(dom femme)
1 year ago • Jun 25, 2023
aradialspire​(dom femme) • Jun 25, 2023
He's talking about "visiting a mistress" here, so I'm thinking he's talking about engaging a Prodomme in a roleplaying session. In this context, gramm, there is nothing wrong with engaging a sex worker to act out your sexual fantasies.

Now, if you're a sub in a "sugar-free" M/s dynamic and try to dictate to me that I need to force you to do X, Y or Z because you can't be honest about wanting to engage in certain sexual fantasies, that's another problem. Each person decides for themselves what's acceptable, and communication is very important; without it she just won't know what you're really after.

If she's not comfortable with sexual contact during a scene, she's not comfortable with sexual contact during a scene. Some people say that's a red flag for prostitution, but she may also be Asexual or have other valid reasons she's not willing to let you put her tongue up her ass. But until you're open and honest about your desires, you're not going to know what's possible.

Foot worship, body worship, ass worship, sexual service, these are all keywords to keep an eye out for in ads. You're a subset within a sexual minority, so it'll take time. Just be realistic and understand that fantasy ≠ reality.
Mistress Kassandra​(dom female)
1 year ago • Jun 26, 2023
aradialspire wrote:
He's talking about "visiting a mistress" here, so I'm thinking he's talking about engaging a Prodomme in a roleplaying session. In this context, gramm, there is nothing wrong with engaging a sex worker to act out your sexual fantasies.

Now, if you're a sub in a "sugar-free" M/s dynamic and try to dictate to me that I need to force you to do X, Y or Z because you can't be honest about wanting to engage in certain sexual fantasies, that's another problem. Each person decides for themselves what's acceptable, and communication is very important; without it she just won't know what you're really after.

If she's not comfortable with sexual contact during a scene, she's not comfortable with sexual contact during a scene. Some people say that's a red flag for prostitution, but she may also be Asexual or have other valid reasons she's not willing to let you put her tongue up her ass. But until you're open and honest about your desires, you're not going to know what's possible.

Foot worship, body worship, ass worship, sexual service, these are all keywords to keep an eye out for in ads. You're a subset within a sexual minority, so it'll take time. Just be realistic and understand that fantasy ≠ reality.


His ad and profile led me to believe this was not directed at a professional encounter. Perhaps you are correct that it was directed towards that. Odd that he would post this here if that was the case as professional dominatrices are a ToS violation is my understanding
obeydentbrissym​(switch male)
5 months ago • Jun 6, 2024

Brisbane 58 novice looking

Byrdie wrote:
I've seen a lot of dommes voice annoyance with the idea of pretending to "force" a submissive to do something they actually want to do.

No matter what your opinion is of it, no matter what headspace it puts you into, cunnilingus and rimming are considered sexual acts by the majority. If a dominant says "no sex," it's almost certainly going to cover anything involving genital or anal contact.

What you're likely looking for is a domme who is interested in "body worship," "oral service," or similar euphemisms.
MstressWhipplash​(dom female)
5 months ago • Jun 6, 2024
A man submitting to a Dominant Woman starts with knowing each other very well. Kink later.

Oral in my view is something I relax and enjoy it ISN'T when the person doing it gets attention.

With "forced licking" it's about him no matter what he says, as he craves words like lick harder, faster, softer etc. Yawn boring then it's about him.
Oral and sex are for my pleasure when I want it, HOW I want it as I own the fuck.
tallslenderguy​(other male)
5 months ago • Jun 9, 2024
MstressWhipplash wrote:
A man submitting to a Dominant Woman starts with knowing each other very well. Kink later.

Oral in my view is something I relax and enjoy it ISN'T when the person doing it gets attention.

With "forced licking" it's about him no matter what he says, as he craves words like lick harder, faster, softer etc. Yawn boring then it's about him.
Oral and sex are for my pleasure when I want it, HOW I want it as I own the fuck.


^^What she said^^

i'm a gay guy and only have experience with one woman. i was married to one for half my life (i'm a formerly religiously conditioned person, my story is scattered around the cage). i learned a lot in the experience though, the main point being, most men a women are wired differently.

Yeah, i know, stating the obvious, but if one is truly interested in "serving" the other, "force" seems a contradiction in terms. i think wanting to be "forced" is really a projection of what you want, not what she wants. I.e., you are serving your interests, not hers.
Byrdie​(switch female){rl only}Verified member
5 months ago • Jun 11, 2024
Byrdie​(switch female){rl only}Verified member • Jun 11, 2024
gramm wrote:
Just on that point that tongue worship is not something that is really forced as it is part of the play that the sub actually wants, well I can disagree to that slightly as I have had a different experience , I was once in the company of a very strict Mistress who (... snip ...)


Okay, so you found one. It's been a year. Between munches, mixers, classes, campouts, retreats, conferences, and other events; have you found enough others to answer your question?