Stupid Questions for Men

VuudooMan​(switch male) • Aug 2, 2023

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autisticbarbie • Aug 2, 2023

Love this thread. My question is: how important is a woman's appearance to you in a romantic relationship? I get that appearance is not everything, but you all seem to really be into the visuals more than I am. Can you quantify into a percentage please v. other personality and economic aspects, status, kindness, humour, whatever? Appreciate it.

balloonkotinsp • Aug 2, 2023

Well, to Submissive Jewish girl,
I would put other factors above the shape of a woman's vagina, every time. Personality, sense of humor, humility etc. Without a doubt. It's merely from a physical perspective that the question arose. As I remember. I would hope most men would agree. It's the love that lasts, the physical stuff is a side bar.

Oxyacetylene​(dom male) • Aug 2, 2023

Speaking only for me I'd say physical appearance is about 50% important in the beginning. It's meant to get me interested in her, but not enough to pass. After she attracts me with her looks the next biggest factor would be kindness. In every relationship there's a give-and-take and I have proven to be a self-destructive giver. So I would need her to know that and not take advantage of that fact. After appearance and kindness my list goes; How she deals with problems, how weird we can be with each other, humor, her spending, and lastly parenting style.

tallslenderguy​(other male) • Aug 2, 2023

i like this question and don't think it "stupid."
This is not a criticism for me that most men seem very visually wired? i sometimes wondering if part of what makes my wiring different as a gay gay is how much weight i put on emotional connection? i am absolutely visual, but that's mostly a surface and initial thing with me... i can go to the gym and drool all day looking at all the beautiful Men, but even doing that, i will find while doing my own work out that i'll find other things that make me more attracted to some than others... attitude, demeanor while they are working out, interacting with others if they are with someone, all become more important to me.
When i am on gay dating sights, i am notorious for writing stupidly long profiles (my profiles are alive and always seem to grow over time), in my efforts to attract and find emotional/intellectual connection to go with the physical. i see a ton of profiles from guys saying they are looking for relationship... and often the profile says nothing more? Which frustrates the hell out of me lol. I think: "don't they realize they have to give us some idea of who they are and what they are looking for?" Is it because they are relying on the visual (their pic) to attract? Though many profiles have no pic!! Or is it because they do not want or know how to put a piece of their self out there to attract another? i feel many men either do not know how, or do not want to be open/vulnerable, even in response to my own emotional openness. i find a good amount of guys who really like and are attracted to my openness and vulnerability, but almost none respond in kind?
sorry, hope i didn't go too far into left field, your question pushed a button in me.

kaoh • Aug 2, 2023

Short answer, no, it cannot be quantified (for me). Beauty is as they say, in the eye of the beholder. I don't know that I have a type, but the blonde bimbo is a definite turn-off. Beauty catches the eye, of course but if you find you are talking to "dead wood" it is time to move on. I have dated and been in LTR with "unconventional" beauties. If there is no intellectual connection, there is no amount of makeup or hair-dye that is going to change that. On that topic, I tend toward the "natural" beauty a with little to no makeup. I don't care to date a painting.

Defender​(dom male) • Aug 2, 2023

People wiser than me who have apparently studied this matter, suggest that females (initially) are attracted by status, whilst males (initially) are attracted by looks.

This is clearly a generalisation, but I do wonder how many female lovers Mick Jagger would have had, if he had been a refuse collector for the local Council all his life.....?


Best thing about being a man?

Being stoic.

Worst thing about being a man?

Being far too stoic.

I'mME • Aug 2, 2023

Little Vixie
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS QUESTION.
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I'mME • Aug 2, 2023

Oxyacetylene,

But do you just swing it around?

I'mME • Aug 2, 2023

balloonkotisp,
To make sure he's okay.... I love it.