PinkHairNoMore(sub female)
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1 year ago •
Oct 2, 2023
Hey Cagers? Kinksters?
New to BDSM world. I tried to be as detailled as possible in my profile. Im a submissive doll, started with my husband, we have a great sex life, but think I need more. He takes care of me in his own way and I love it and love him for it. But still missing something. In discussion process with an LDR Master. Really enjoying those starter conversations. You are welcome to chat, I have a lot to learn. PHNM x |
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1 year ago •
Oct 3, 2023
Hi, I'm Abob. Well, clearly not, but that's my username for now. Mid-50s dom in a long-term marriage. New(ish) to the lifestyle apart from some BDSM play on and off over the years. My partner is wanting to learn to be more submissive, but has a lot of internal resistance. We want to learn more, about things like dom guilt (that's me), letting go of control (her) and finding new partners to share. For now, happy to keep learning from folks who have been doing this for longer.
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Sololoquy
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1 year ago •
Oct 4, 2023
Hi. I'm Loquy, late 30's, and I'm genderqueer.
I joined because I have been aware of my attraction to BDSM for over twenty years but didn't know what to make of it when I was in my twenties, when I was also struggling with depression and anxiety. (Not suggesting a causal link.) I was in a long-term relationship where we dabbled with some kink, which was good, although there were things I might have liked to try but felt conflicted about executing (consent is a given, just my own hang-ups). I got my depression and anxiety sorted at 30, and have kept good mental health ever since. I've been single and happily so for the past seven years and now consider myself solo by choice. I'm much happier in myself not being in a relationship or anything casual. I feel that if that were ever to change, this is one area of my life that has only been tentatively explored and it would be good for me to learn more, understand more and be more at ease with it as a part of me. I did a very comprehensive BDSM test last night, twice. The first time I took it, I answered the questions for how I felt about the statements in real life, as in if I had a willing partner I could actually do these things with, and I realised my own hang-ups of feeling ashamed about things I would like to do or have done were affecting my results to some extent. The second time I took it, I answered the questions for what I imagine doing or having done and the desirability or not. Some answers were the same both times, because I'm confident in how I feel about them (mostly things I don't want). Some answers were different because of certain hang-ups. Some answers were different in terms of sliding a little further up or down the scale. And some answers were different because the idea may appeal but the practicalities don't (i.e. prefer the fantasy over the reality). It was an interesting exercise just to get me to know and admit what I like. And then doing some searches on new terms I picked up, I found this site and it gave me a positive vibe. So doing this is quite a big step for me because I don't discuss sex hardly at all with anyone. But from what I gather, it isn't really just about the sex, although that's part of it. There's more to it and I guess I want to tease that out and maybe figure out some ways I can be more confident in expressing what I want for myself, such that if I were ever to partner again, I could just own my desires instead of being nervous about enacting them. So, that was a very long introduction, and having said all that, I'm going to own to the following: I'm a switch. I like to be both dominant and submissive. I think I'm a rope bunny (less so a rigger) but I'm less into rope and prefer other forms of bondage. OK, that's a start! 😅 |
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Villanelle(staff)
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1 year ago •
Oct 6, 2023
Lots of wonderful new intros - thank you everyone - and welcome!
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insubordinate(sub male)
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1 year ago •
Oct 6, 2023
Hi! farashacaveluv wrote: Allo. I'm a 40-year-old switch hailing from the US. Here to make comrades and to have great conversations and to give/receive advice. There you have it.
Welcome. Join the great group who are looking for conversations and advice. Look forward to learning more... innie |
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CherryChan(sub femme)
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1 year ago •
Oct 7, 2023
Hi, I'm Cherry and I came in today, It's very quiet here
It seems like the site has been forgotten. |
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Sololoquy
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1 year ago •
Oct 7, 2023
CherryChan wrote: Hi, I'm Cherry and I came in today, It's very quiet here
It seems like the site has been forgotten. Hi Cherry 🙂 I've just joined too and I agree, it does seem quiet. I'm new to this and was hoping to learn more, so mostly just been reading some past posts. Welcome anyway! 👋 |
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Irish123(dom male)
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1 year ago •
Oct 7, 2023
CherryChan wrote: Hi, I'm Cherry and I came in today, It's very quiet here
It seems like the site has been forgotten. Please read some blogs and the forum posts. I wouldn't say it's been forgotten, just perhaps not as big as the other site. The caretakers seem a little more selective than other sites. Welcome and enjoy! |
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Villanelle(staff)
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1 year ago •
Oct 8, 2023
Welcome everyone!
The site activity can vary loads depending on the time of day so keep checking back. In the meantime don't miss our Let's Get You Started Magazine section, which is for anyone new to THE CAGE, regardless of experience level (although there's lots for the novice there too). |
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Villanelle(staff)
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1 year ago •
Oct 13, 2023
Time for a bump! If you've joined us recently please do say hello!
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