TopekaDom wrote:
While my own personal checklist is much more complicated, I'll stick to the one most of have filled out on our profiles. So to start things off with a bang, I decided I would start off with Cum Eating:
One thing I've noticed is that after careful, clothed negotiations, where we've confirmed that we have nothing more to discuss and play starts, an alarming number of men have an odd habit if (safer sex) intercourse was agreed upon and engaged in. When close to climax, they will pull out, remove the condom, start jerking off, and ask me where I want it. Oddly, they never brought this up during clothed negotiations. I'm guessing this is some sort of porn fantasy thing.
Very quickly, I decided that if they were going to surprise me, that I'd surprise them right back.I indicate the area below my chin and above my pubic mound, and then say, "As long as you're going to lick me clean afterwards, go for it."
The SHOCK on their faces is hilarious. They either miss a beat while masturbating, or actually can't finish because they're so grossed out by the idea. And there I lie thinking, "You make a deposit, you make a withdrawal."
I will say, however, that I became intrigued by the idea after watching a porn film where the man *immediately* licked up his ejaculate rather than leaving the woman to deal with it. I've seen too many films of women pretending to be orgasmic while being ejaculated onto, trying to look sexy while blinking stinging semen out of their eyes, etc. Seeing that actor lick his own up was, I realized, exactly what had been missing from porn films for me.
And how it's how I react to the expectation that OF COURSE I'm okay with being ejaculated onto.
Quote: Dommes: Is the same applicable for squirting during cunnilingus (I've never been with a squirter, so I don't know if that is applicable or not)?
Back when I used to squirt, before I got put on water pills, I assumed that any partner who:
* knew I squirted
* was giving me cunnilingus
* and was stimulating my G-spot
... would either expect to get a face full or adjust if they heard me make specific noises that they'd heard during intercourse before I squirted. One partner was a little slow on the uptake, got a face-full, and then got peevish about it. I do not know what to make of that.