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2 months ago •
Jun 25, 2024
2 months ago •
Jun 25, 2024
Steellover(sub male) • Jun 25, 2024
I think that is a fair point, and, speaking as a self-identified submissive, it is very easy for partners of either orientation to fall into this trap. Submissives tend to fall into the trap of focusing on their own kinks, fantasies, desires, or what have you, and seek fulfillment of them. Some dommes can fall into the trap of "Service first and only- kink last (if at all.) What will You do for me?"
The question both partners of any relationship should be asking is, what can WE do for EACH OTHER? Ultimately, many, heck probably most of us- myself included, do want to seek a deeper and more fulfilling connection than just a quick fix of kink. We want a deep, romantic, and lasting connection. For guys like me, this means getting outside of my own head, not being too caught up in my own dirty/kinky fantasies, and really reaching across and trying to connect with the partner I am interested in. I know as a sub, it is easy to fall into this trap of being inside your own head too much. I do see no real issue with a female domme who wants and enjoys being worshipped. I am, after all, attracted to strong assertive woman and I WANT to worship them- and I want my partner to appreciate being worshipped. But there is, of course a point where it becomes sort of a toxic narcissism and it isn't sustainable. |
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