DirtroadSamurai(dom male) |
5 months ago •
Jul 20, 2024
5 months ago •
Jul 20, 2024
DirtroadSamurai(dom male) • Jul 20, 2024
fluffypoppet wrote: This question has lit my brain up like a pinball machine. I keep jumping from one thought to another.
My answer to this question is NO, because: - Punishments serve a purpose- to restore balance and trust. (At least in my world- I wouldn't consent to punishment for anything less.) - Not everyone consents to punishments. | Given my experience with them, I'm not sure I would. - If I willingly consented to a punishment, it would still need to be within my boundaries. - No contact is a hard boundary. - A beating seems risky, if I associate a beating with punishment, it will NEVER be a funishment to me again. - If a slap leaves a mark on my face, that's again outside of a boundary for me. My preference when it comes to terrible mistakes is as follows: - A conversation- I prefer to have a discussion about what happened, why it is wrong, what should have happened, what needs to be done to make amends, and how to prevent further transgressions. - A punishment we've discussed that fits within my boundaries. I may not get to choose my own punishment, but I can choose my boundaries, and they exist for a good reason. Anyway, if something is so terribly wrong that the only restorative justice is to violate my boundaries then the dynamic is already over. So I guess losing him is the final outcome. Though, it needn't have been. A creative Dom could find other impactful punishments within set boundaries. Perhaps a helpful question might be: *What are appropriate punishments for a terrible transgression?* Or perhaps even better if you ask "What punishment is best for your particular dynamic between the two or more parties directly involved? |
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