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Genderification Going Forward

shebakesalot​(sub female)
3 months ago • Aug 24, 2024
shebakesalot​(sub female) • Aug 24, 2024
Heck yes champagne!! I think your voice is an important one, Lambsone. Truly. All the conversations as of late have been eye-opening and opportunities for me to listen and evolve. Thank you for this 🙏🏽
Sweet Minx​(sub female)
3 months ago • Aug 24, 2024
Sweet Minx​(sub female) • Aug 24, 2024
lambsone wrote:
THE BIG REVEAL

As of this post I have personally read all of the posts in both genderification posts. Some I had to read twice to fully understand what the meanings were. After reading all those, I discovered that it helped me see the issue in a better light when the larger community discussed it. I think I needed that. I'm very grateful to intenseoldman for the good idea to give a place for the discussion.

I still have my own perspective and so my thinking hasn't changed (no I'm not out to marginalize anyone, and nor do I think one person has more value over another). However I have decided to change my actions/reactions because many more people have weighed in and the consensus seems to be leaning in a particular direction.

I am personally amazed at how much dedicated work, time, thoughtfulness, and energy that everyone put into posting in both threads. I think that is stupendous.

So with a better understanding I am willing now to make some concessions and promise to do the following:

1. Post only gender neutral posts in the forums that all can participate in freely.

2. Hands Off: once I post a thread I will take my hands off of it, so that it can develop into whatever it develops into. I also will not monitor it. It will be up to the community ourselves to play nice.

3. Dominant Voice: I am going to step back from posting so much. I was not aware that my voice was Dominant and lately I think I may have over done it. Hopefully drawing back will encourage others to step forward and generate topics resulting in many more Dominant voices to emerge equally. This includes posts I generate and those I respond to.

Somebody open a bottle of vintage champagne so we can celebrate!!!


Hi Lambsone,
I wanted to post and say that this is really admirable of you. You don't have to change anything you do but it's impressive that you have seen a different perspective or way and want to. I know that you and I have had several difficulties in the past and do not see eye to eye. Although we are different I respect that you are an integral part of the cage. It's nice to move on and start a fresh page. Have a great weekend. icon_smile.gif
lambsoneVerified Account
lambsoneVerified Account
3 months ago • Aug 24, 2024
lambsoneVerified Account • Aug 24, 2024
Thank you Sweet Minx. I appreciate it.
lambsoneVerified Account
lambsoneVerified Account
3 months ago • Aug 24, 2024
lambsoneVerified Account • Aug 24, 2024
Thank you shebakesalot. I hope you got your celebratory glass of bubbly.
Ingénue{VK}
3 months ago • Aug 26, 2024
Ingénue{VK} • Aug 26, 2024
Thoughts in response:

1. Post anyway. If others want to react, so what? Read and learn from them and embrace the variety on this site, or ignore and scroll by. There isn't a "safe space" for any of us here, anyone can get "attacked". You're a very prolific poster in forum so are clearly resilient and you are not shy in stating and being insistent at times about your own views.

2. Behaviour protocol? Block, scroll past and mute on this site if you don't like the behaviour.

3. Avoid micromanaging in threads. Enjoy the contributions.

4. Acknowledge their viewpoint and state that you think differently.

5. Choose your battles wisely. Disagreements are inevitable.


Added to that, I have just seen your resolutions above.

I wish you well with them.
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lambsoneVerified Account
3 months ago • Aug 27, 2024
lambsoneVerified Account • Aug 27, 2024
Thanks for weighing in Ingenue.
Ingénue{VK}
3 months ago • Aug 27, 2024
Ingénue{VK} • Aug 27, 2024
lambsone wrote:
Thanks for weighing in Ingenue.


You're most welcome.