being a sensitive submissive can be very hard

being a sensitive submissive can be very hard

tictackid​(sub female) • Nov 23, 2024

Hello
Just wanted to post this to possibly have some discussions about the challenges of being an emotional submissive, and caring alot. At most times all I want to do is take care of others, please, and help people and there’s either not enough opportunities or people don’t want my help so it really beats me down and makes me sad, and would take any advice on how to not be so affected by it.

I'mME • Nov 23, 2024

tictakkid,

Hi,

Emotions are a part of life. I'm not, suppressing them is not healthy. Maybe you could explain a little more by what you mean when you say there is not enough to do, people don't want want your help.

Do you mean your Dom?

Edit

I ask because I noticed you have written several forum posts asking about ways to be better, improve, etc as a sub .

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Nov 24, 2024

People are naturally designed to care for one another. We are social creatures, and find the most fulfilment in emotional connection.

Despite this, many of us buck against the drive to establish emotional relationships for a variety of reasons; fear of commitment, toxic social stereotyping, a primal sense of competition that is largely unnecessary in this modern age of reason and plenty. Sometimes, it is as simple as having differing ideas of how we should care for one another. It can be a counterproductive way of thinking, and considering its nonsensical prevalence, it can be especially frustrating to those of us who are experienced and comfortable with sharing our emotional selves.

Unfortunately, there is no efficient path to success. The only thing I can suggest is that you keep looking. Do your work to understand exactly what you want as much as you can and try to help others see your authentic self. There are people out there who want a partner, sub, Dom, or even just a friend who cares about them. Try to remain aware of who you invest your time in. We are capable of helping one another grow emotionally, but if someone does not wish to change, you are not going to change them. Stay optimistic, but do your best to learn when it is time to move on.

Just keep looking and you will start to find those who appreciate what you are trying to share.

Nightshade Ophelia​(sub female) • Nov 24, 2024

There's nothing wrong with caring unless it is a form of self-harm and you are ignoring your needs. Caring is natural, as long as you are looking after yourself. People also receive care in different ways. In that case, you cannot force anyone to accept your care. It's still not a bad thing that you care. However, sometimes a desperate need to care for others can make one not listen to how the recipient wants to be helped. Sometimes people need space when they are in trouble.

I am a person who cares deeply and it hasn't always worked out for me in ways that I expected. It wasn't until I needed help that I understood that just because someone is available to help, it doesn't mean that they know how to help. It might not be their fault, but the disconnect is still disappointing.

On the other hand, if someone is not communicating how they want to be helped, you can't do anything about it. If it is disturbing your peace, for example, if the person takes out their frustration on you but isn't telling you what's wrong, you need to decide if that's the type of person that you want to be around.

But don't let anyone ever make you feel bad for caring or having emotions.

Maybe you need to direct the energy into something like volunteering.