Is there anyone that is not confused?

Is there anyone that is not confused?

SayYesMaam​(dom female) • Jan 17, 2025

I am dominant. That means I like submissiveness.  I like naturally submissive. So many guys with profiles that say they are "switches" or dominant guys, email me claiming to be submissive. I understand that you want to be under my ass but a guy that is pretending or confused is not going to be able to handle my requirements or work long term.

slaveJuliaTgurl​(sub femme) • Jan 17, 2025

that makes sense, and it hits home for people like me. i didn't understand my submissiveness 20 years ago, and decided to be a dominant and not recognize my true form first, in result, i failed horribly. in conclusion, i became a slave as i never wanted to be in control again. Alot of people are attracted to BDSM for sexual pleasure, this is an issue if it is solely that reason, because they do not know who they are in BDSM, all they seek is a 'quick fix' to a 'bad day'. Some people, like most of the people on this site, are very down to earth, moralized, and understand exactly what BDSM is. i am new here, i have everything to learn, even though i've been mainly self practicing for more than 20 years, i believe there is a light in the darkness, and if we don't give up hope and we keep learning and evolving as a BDSM culture, we'll be more resiliant to detecting such people, then assessing them, and deciding if we want to open their heart, mind, and spirit to what is really inside them. when people turn to kink, even just for sexual reasons, there is something more inside, yet it may not become part of them until they accept that collar, but more than that, fuse it into their soul.

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Jan 17, 2025

Mostly I think it is deceit. Those "Doms" who contact you seeking submission to you are just looking to get their rocks off. They have no real interest in being submissive, but think you are a kink dispenser.

sub Daddy​(switch male) • Jan 17, 2025

I truly love both. but maybe im confused

slaveJuliaTgurl​(sub femme) • Jan 17, 2025

slave understands and is learning from the replies

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Jan 18, 2025

I'm Femdom so I hear you SayYesMaam!

Most don't understand the term "Femdom" in a profile. In short those that practice Femdom, it implies men only have ONE role that of slave/submissive/bottom. Maledom and lesdom etc are the same, the roles are NOT fluid they are set. The person is stating what they require by using the term. They (maledon Femdom etc) are subsets of BDSM. BDSM is the Term of us ALL. . Most interchange the words and that's fine some times but often people waste time contacting someone because they don't read a profile. It's why terminology was invented to save us all time. It seems as t got easier for us all to find eachother it also got harder LOL

No one is saying a switch needs to pick a side (or at least I'm not. Switching is a thing). It is perfectly ok to want both sides of the whip. I just wish they understood whom they are contacting.

sub Daddy​(switch male) • Jan 18, 2025

gotcha. understand