What do I do?

What do I do?

Sub Baby Love​(sub female) • Jun 7, 2025

He stalks all my social media. It’s hard to take advice when you’re in the muddy water. My last post was about my boyfriend. I feel like he tries to tell me what to do and gets mad when I talk to any man (even business advisor) because he is cheating? But he says don’t look at his profiles because I’ll hurt my own feelings. I don’t feel attractive I don’t feel loved. Everyone in my life gaslights me. It’s just hard to admit. I have gone away from myself, my little side, my feminine side to stay here and hope for a better result. I will admit I feel weak and vulnerable now. As a woman. I guess I just need to vent. Even though I’m sure someone here will read this and tell him what I’m saying. Does anyone ever feel like people try to control your life so much that your identity is displaced? Gone? That’s where I’m at. He’s been saying he’ll change but then I am told “it’s none of your fucking business” when he’s talking to girl on the phone and says it’s a part of business. His friends girl. I clearly tell him don’t ever talk to me that way and he needs to delete all his profiles. That have girls on there, sending out spam messages as promotional effort for his music. But I feel like nothing has changed. He love bombs me and then makes comments like I’m not good enough. And then says he’s just really direct and I don’t interpret his care right. Always talking about violence when he gets anxious. I’m sorry if this post is confusing but I’m very scattered and in the thick of trying to figure this out. My self esteem is almost gone and I’m tired of not feeling loved and appreciated. I need some solid people in my corner to help me, be my friend. Because right now all I have are people that hurt me and gaslight me. I can’t keep living in disassociation. 😕

Solace​(dom male) • Jun 7, 2025

Cut him out completely in every way possible.

Miki • Jun 7, 2025

Sorry, not a lot more I can say about this save to stress what you probably already know / have read.

Get rid of this guy for once and for all and if he is stalking you, gather evidence, witnesses, whatever trail he leaves behind (all rodents, 2 legged and 4 legged do) and get the cops involved.

It's for your peace of mind and future happiness at least and your personal safety at most-- most likely a bit of both.

TheWhorelock​(dom male) • Jun 7, 2025

This man is an abuser. This is not Dominance, this is trauma. You should never be afraid of your Dom. (Fear play is different, don't confuse that)

TwinkleEyes​{n/a} • Jun 8, 2025

Your thoughts and feelings are normal when an abuser has been slowly but surely taking you down. With deliberate actions. AKA trained you to accept his abuse. Trauma, to control you as others have said.

I agree with the others leave him ASAP and cut off any and all communication. Block anywhere and everywhere. Be aware you may have to move. Yes, report it to the police. Talk here for support. Group/personal therapy if you want.

Copious amounts of self care and love. You are beautiful, intelligent, and strong. And brave for talking about it.

Hugs.

AlphaByDesign​(dom male) • Jun 8, 2025

Maybe take an extended break from social media till you have taken time to deal with your mental health. This can be attract a lot of toxic stressors.

1crazygirl​(sub female) • Jun 16, 2025

@Sub Baby Love​(sub female)
"He’s been saying he’ll change but then I am told “it’s none of your fucking business” "
You have control over your self you can only change you and your situation. You make you happy or sad. You are the boss of you once you become over 18 or become independent. You yes I keep stressing that point cause it's time for you to take care of your self, your needs, your self esteem, your inner self because you are sounding like you are miserable and in an abusive relationship.

This Lola Young --- Messy tune makes me think of you and your situation.



I sincerely hope and wish you the best life is too short to waste over another's BS.
1crazygirl/1cg/Sarah

Ms MaryJane • Jun 16, 2025

you need to leave. not just vent. this is toxic and unhealthy. it isn't a relationship or D/s just plain ole abuse. block, change numbers everything and anything to get your safety and sanity back.
as good ole happy bunny said in the early 2000s "boys are dumb. throw rocks at them!"\
then heal and go find yourself a real man...cuz bf isn't it.

Zombie Clown​(dom male) • Jun 16, 2025

Run.

Kelpi • Jun 17, 2025

I am not a father I am a dad. I have been a daddy to friends back n my younger days. Being their daddy ment I had to listen not judge but give good advice. There are several rules to being a dad and a daddy. The first is to be honest. Little girl he knows your worth but he does not want you to know it. He knows if you ever find out he will lose something great and he will never find another like you. So if you will grant me this one last time to go into "daddy mode" and give you a truth you need to know.

Baby girl your heart knows you are worth more than what this boy will ever will be. he is keeping you down so e can feel higher and worth something. There are people in this world that can only feel powerful only by taking everything you have to give. They will never give back and will always make you feel like you are nothing without them.

Baby girl they lie to you. You are worth more than all the gold and diamonds in our world. You are smarter and stronger than you or them will ever know. You can do things you think you are not able to. You are more loved than you know. You are strong than you think. The power inside you is so great that unless you tap into it you will never know what can be done. Only when you tap into it will you be able to grow and become the woman I know is in you.

The choice is yours to stay or go. If you ask me ten I say yes go and leave him behind/ It will be hard and he will fight it but you can do it. Find some place to go and when you can leave. Just leave knowing you have people here and around you who will help and be there for you. If you think he will react in a violent way first talk to your local police dept. Let them know who you are and what your going to do. Trust me on this it will help you more than you know. I am long winded so I will end this. Stay safe and let us know what you will do .... please let us know.

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Kelpi